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Before we were married she had a reputation as fast and easy

 
 
Reply Thu 19 Dec, 2019 12:03 pm
When my wife and I met we were 3 hours into our first date when heavy petting found us in my bed having sex. While that was great for the moment as things got serious and after we'd married and we'd talk about exes, she revealed she'd had first date fast sex with pretty much all her exes. Does that qualify as a red flag as to her character or am I her next ex?
 
jespah
 
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Reply Thu 19 Dec, 2019 12:13 pm
@witoutit,
She didn't marry them. She married you.

The past is the past and those guys are exes. They don't matter.

If you continue to be insecure about your relationship, consider counseling.
RABEL222
 
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Reply Thu 19 Dec, 2019 01:55 pm
@jespah,
Counseling or do the girl a favor and divorce her.
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Linkat
 
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Reply Fri 20 Dec, 2019 08:38 am
@witoutit,
to add to jespah - is there any other reason you have a so-called red flag?

Is it just her past that bothers you - if so to be blunt - that is stupid. If you love her as she is now and she is not being fast and easy with other men while you are married - really what does it matter. What matters is how she is with you now and how YOUR relationship is.

Put it to you this way --- the accumulation of your past experiences help make you into the person you are today. If she is a wonderful loving fabulous woman right now - maybe those past experiences has made her who she is now - maybe these past experiences actually makes her a better wife and makes her less likely to cheat?

Long and short --- if you love her and there are no other reasons to be concerned drop it. It is not a "red flag".
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edgarblythe
 
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Reply Fri 20 Dec, 2019 09:13 am
She didn't form a lasting bond with the other men. What the previous answers bring to light is the truth. If you have a good marriage that should be enough to end the speculation.
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