No, I hadn't read you post, but I'm sure you did what you had to do. I'm also sure you motivation was not to get social media pictures up.
Not sure about the meaning of either of these sentences.
Like I as a 5 or 6 year old "did what I had to do"?
If you mean I, amongst the others, were forced out of bed to dress, and then, without being given anything to eat or drink, go to listen to a priest drone on forever.
Then to come home and still have to wait to open gifts until someone, who absolutely didn't care about watching us, was ready to preside. If you mean did I go along with that because I had no choice, then yes, I guess "I did what I had to do", because I was told to do that.
Honestly, I'm not even gonna get into calling that abusive, so we don't go down that rabbit hole.
I think most of the kids sitting in that church at 0'dark thirty hadn't eaten or gotten to open anything either. It was just the way it was.
My upbringing was far from unique.
I do remember coming back home and wanting to just go back to bed.
And are you saying it's a good thing to have motivation to get social media pictures up? I'm confused about that.
I imagine today it's all about parents getting pictures and posting them to compete with all the other parents taking pictures and posting them first thing in the morning. Then posting all the "Oh Cute!" and ((((((kids))))))), to show other adults you're no slacker and can produce the perfect xmas.
Socal media can go screw itself with the growing belief there are no private moments. It can go screw itself for a lot of other reasons too.
I'm not trying to be arugmentative about this, truly. No one, including me, knows what every family wakes up to.
Just because you as an individual has "never heard of" such a thing, doesn't mean much at all.
So yes, I definately think the childrens wishes (when they can express them verbally or non verbally) need to be considered every day when it comes to throwing images of them on the internet.
You don't own them. They aren't your possessions. You can't do whatever you want to them "Because it's Christmas!"
Taking private, candid, for families eyes only pictures are different.....even then there needs to be boundaries.
In Linkats story, that child was definately saying "Don't do this to me" Yet he/she was utterly powerless to stop others, including his own mother, from terrorizing him.
I know there's a picture floating around somewhere in the world of my brother looking like Edvard Munch's "The Scream" while sitting on the Easter Bunny's lap. Boy could I identify with him.
Oh, but that's different...Is it?
I have never liked waking up to someone elses agenda, even when little. My internal clock has always been shifted towards "stay up late, sleep in" At any age, being spoken to, noise, music, multiple people around when first waking up, has always been disorienting, mentally and even physically painful to me.
My husband is the same way. As young as 7 or 8, he would wake earlier than everyone else and go off into the woods to wake up, leaving his 10 brothers and sisters, and their chaos, behind him. By 12 or 13, he was sleeping out there half the time as well. Weather permiting.
I just asked him what xmas morning was like in his house, as he was 10th out of 11 kids.
He said you just woke up when you woke up, and when you parents saw you, they gave you your present. No spectacle. He said he enjoyed Christmas very much. He got a present, and everyone had a big dinner much later in the day.
So bottom line, there's family tradition for the sake of family tradition, which today I suppose means living in a glass bowl even against your wishes, then there's respecting others, even childrens boundaries.
If they don't want to get up, FFS let them sleep in.
If the don't want their pictures taken, respect that.