Traveling with opposite sex when in a committed relationship.

It is unreasonable to expect your boyfriend to only work with male colleagues. Men and women are together in the workplace all the time. It is also unreasonable for you to demand the details of who he is traveling with for work. He doesn't control this. If your BF is going to cheat on you, he is going to cheat on you whether traveling or at home. If you feel you can trust him, then this should not be an issue. Has there been a previous violation of your trust?

You say you are in counseling due to issues with this “ friend” of his. Now he is traveling with her on business.

What other “issues” is she causing between you two?

What are the sleeping arrangements for these trips?

I've traveled due to business before - I've traveled with male and female co-workers as well as by myself. Typically when you travel for business each employee gets their own hotel room.

So what is the big deal? You go to work every day with this person - so what does it matter if it involves flying or driving or taking a cab and you are out of state? The relationship doesn't change.

And I am married - my husband never questioned these trips. And the few he has had to take I have not either - and to be honest I do not know whether women traveled with him or not. I know some he had co-workers with him. But that is about all I know.

Is he sharing a room with this woman?

Other than that - I could care less especially if it is a business situation - it is very normal as men and women do work together.

Personally I think it's time you ended this relationship.

This poor man can't do anything right, and you hang on to every wrong thing he does for months, even years.

I agree with most people here.

1. There is nothing wrong with travelling with people of the opposite sex.

2. If this relationship isn't working, it is best to end it.

I am grateful to all of your responses. Because I'm not in a traveling type of career I am unknowledgeable of these arrangements, what is normal for most people, and how I should feel about it. What bothered me about him traveling out of town with this other women is he didn't tell me about it. I found out a few weeks later. A few months later I, then, found out he was going to her house for several weeks to remodel her kitchen. I had no idea he was going there to help her and so on.
As I pursued more information and requests for respecrful boundaries, and "Hay! I'm uncomfortable with this, could you please respect my feelings?" - the response I received was a lot of defensiveness, accusing me of having problems. It became clear to me that his relationship with her was separate and did not include me. Ding! Ding! Ding! I viewed his response as a red flag. He denies it.
Anyway, it has become convoluted. He swears he is in love with me only, yet avoids a level of transparency. I've been in relationships before when this topic was perfectly OK, respectful, and I become friends with the female friend. But this guy, keeps it separate.
In therapy, the therapist tries to be the advocate for both of us. It's a process to make change. My process for gaining my individuality is coming along slowly. That is why I asked for other opinions. Thank you so much for all of your input.

Punkey, I don't know what the sleeping arrangements are. I am left out of the loop with many things I should know. The question you ask is information not given to me. Thank you for you question, because it validates an important aspect to transparency, trust, and integrity to a committed relationship.