First time sex

Are you a virgin boyfriend? This plan of yours might make the first time special for you, but are you at all interested in actual pleasure for the two of you???? Did one of your buddies describe something like this to you and you think it sounds cool? Maybe you should wait another 6 months or so and get to know her a little better.

No I'm not virgin. I just wanted to know what position allows such moves

Well (speaking as a grown women) it sounds horribly unsatisfying, like the story line of a a bodice ripper novel, But by all means do what you think sounds terrific and I hope your poor victim pretends it was great. But just to be sensitive to this 'virgin', don't you think she would be better served by someone who isn't seeking advice from strangers on a forum???? I mean really??? Sooner or later she will meet someone knowledgeable about intimacy......you might wind up looking like an amateur or possibly just shallow. Good luck to you and spectacular luck to her if she agrees. I hope it's as wonderful for her as you imagine it might be.,

Such moves will only be unsatisfying for your 'partner'...

You might be overthinking this...

The key to good sex is communication. Talk to her about what she wants. I assume you are going to be having sex more than once (if this is a real relationship), you will have time to explore and talk and figure out what works for both of you.

If you put so much pressure on the first time, it will inevitably be awkward and forced. Just let it happen.

The moment of entry is a few seconds, tops. Concentrate a lot more on before, during, and after.

And keep in mind that the majority of women don't orgasm just from intercourse.

What is HER fantasy about first time sex?

btw, I'm struggling to see where kissing someone at the same time as putting a penis inside a vagina is any sort of impossible or even difficult manuver. I don't think a diagram is needed.

She doesnt has any specific fantasies, she just wants our first time to be special. I mean all the videos i have seen for missionary and other positions, the guys enters his penis first and then kisses her as he leans on her. I wanted to know if there is a way both those things happen simultaneously. Appreciate your help

I think we are all telling you the same thing. The mechanics won't make it special. The position is rather unimportant (and forget everything you see in these "videos"). If you want to kiss her while you are entering her... I don't see the problem (as long as she is up for it). There is nothing wrong with you telling your partner what you want.

What will make it special is what happens before and after. Make her feel beautiful. Make her feel desired. Make her feel respected. Tell her how you feel about her.

The first time any two people have sex is a time to explore. Pay attention to what she likes and doesn't like. If you kiss her neck and she responds positively... keep doing that, if she moves away... do something else.

Remember that this isn't a one time thing, a sexual relationship is something that develops over time... it it gets better as you each learn what the other person likes.

And make sure you keep talking.

What did we all do before videos to show us how to do it?

Well gosh, if a video shows that you put your dick in first before you lean over to kiss your partner, doing it at the same time is obviously impossible.

I think our OP is typing with one hand.

Why do people have to be so insulting whenever someone asks about sex?

I think having open discussions about sex are a good thing... for older people to discourage these discussions doesn't help anyone.

We had magazines (which your partner read even if you didn't) and before that we had cave paintings.

Sexual behavior isn't instinctual. It is something that we are taught, and it varies greatly from culture to culture.

You forgot drawings in the sand. Once the waves came in, the evidence disappeared forever...

...as did your new romantic interest who you always named Sandy.

I believe the most satisfying move you can do to satisfy your girlfriend would be to pack your porno collection and leave town.

It would be nasty for him to do that... good porno can be expensive. I don't see the need for him to be so petty.

The responses to this thread show a real aggressive prudishness. Several responses are directly attacking the original poster. I don't see reason of then a general aversion to sexuality.

The original poster...

1) Is inexperienced and is asking for advice (this is good).
2) Is in a committed relationship (also good).
3) Watches sexual videos (nothing wrong with that).
4) Cares about his partners feelings... and asks her what she wants. (very good).
5) Has his own desires which he is expressing responsibly. He is being clear to her about what he wants (good).

I don't see anything that this guy is doing that is wrong. He is new at this, but he is communicating what he wants directly and asking for what his partner wants.

What exactly is the problem here? Other than a general dislike of sexuality, why are people being so hostile?