Granny porn. Wtf???!!!

Have a conversation. About what you find attractive, nothing more.

And stop snooping!

We’re very close and we often talk about what we find attractive.. there has never been any indication that he is attracted to old women. He says everything that any normal man his age might say... he has particular like dislikes etc. But never any suggestion of being attracted to or having fantasies about older women. He always compliments me on looking younger and tells me how attracted to me he is. That’s why I’m so confused! I don’t understand if he’s actually attracted to these women online... they are all in their 80’s and the opposit of what I would have thought anyone would find attractive... but can people get turned on by watching the most disgusting people they can find? Is that a thing? I agree I shouldn’t snoop !!! but Now I’ve seen this I just want to understand what goes through someone’s head watching that stuff.

You both watch porn to meet your animal desires which is disgusting in itself. Watching porn of your age group does not make you a saint by any standard...

I knew this will sound like a negative comment to many but I believe in saying the truth regardless of how bitter it sounds.

Human beings are above than animals because they have the free will as well as intellect to differentiate between right and wrong. While sex is human need but there are certainly moral ways to do it. Watching porn only make one more animal like who is only following the desires. The truth is that neither you nor your partner love each other, both of you love your desires and ego.

I highly doubt this person came here for a lecture.

It's not imperative to answer every question on the site. And if any users bother you, feel free to hit Ignore on them (just click on the name to go to their page and select Ignore).

This is a diverse site, with people from all over the world. They are not going to conform to the exact same morality. You are entitled to your opinion, of course. And so are the other members of the site. They will not necessarily agree with you.

Wow. Interesting responses!

Porn may not be for everyone but you surely can’t believe that watching porn means you can’t be in love at the same time?

Anyway, maybe don’t respond unless you have something helpful to say? Please

Basically what I’m hoping to understand from someone perhaps who watches granny porn (as there are apparently a lot of people who do!) I want to understand is it a turn on watching something that you’re not supposed to as in the taboo side of it? Or are there people who get turned on by the actual old women physically? I mean going for an older attractive women makes perfect sense to me and beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that, I’m not suggesting women in their 80’s can’t be attractive or even can’t be sexy but what I saw online was seriously hard to grasp how anyone would be turned on by especially a young fit handsome man in his thirties (who has only had relationship with people his age) watching old ugly women in their 80’s having sex??? I just don’t get it. Sorry if I come across bad or as a hypocryt I appreciate that everyone has their own kinks, attractions.. even unusual fetishes etc. I’m also aware that what you like in porn does not always translate in to the real world... but I can’t understand to watch porn does there not have to be some sort of attraction admiration appreciation etc for what you’re looking at? Am I missing something?

Maybe for him it’s like people who gawk at accidents: you know you shouldn’t stare, but you can’t turn away.

Maybe he’s fascinated by the entire possibility (old people having sex)

In any case, don’t feel you have to know Everything in this guy’s head.

The stuff he watched was actually young men with old women... so that implies he’s in the position of the man ?? I agree I don’t need to know everything in his head. Reading your comment did make me chill out a bit!!! So thanks I just can’t understand this category of porn. And I’m feeling confused that from what he watches, it would ‘suggest’ he is ‘sexually’ in to really really old women... we have a great sex life and I’ve never had any issues there but now I find myself looking at old women in public and wondering if he’s imagining having sex with them!!!!! It makes me laugh and it kind of makes me want to cry a little too.. we’ve lived together for years and are planning on getting married... I thought we knew everything about each other (not his every thought! But at least his desires) but well it just shows ,you never really know someone!

What I find weird isn't any of his fetishes, but that looking into his laptop is a crime in your relationship (whenever I start dating someone I always take it as a compliment that she wants to know more about me by snooping into my personal stuff). Or maybe that's a symptom of taboos between you? Taboos aren't a healthy thing in a relationship.

I'd say this:
1- on the bright side, he's getting turned on by old ladies, but having sex with you. Worse would be if he was getting turned on by some old lady and having sex with her.

2- It doesn't matter if you find it gross, his tastes are his tastes. I find some old ladies attractive, though I'm not really into old lady porn. Sometimes I also find it exciting to go over my limits and masturbate to people that usually turn me off, or to even try to find turn ons on them. His fetishes aren't really something you should be concerned about, even if you can't fathom. As long as they aren't criminal.

3- What to do? Hard to tell. It's a matter of you digging into what exactly is going on there: if he's using porn to get turned on before sex frequently, then maybe there's something lacking in the sexual relationships between you both. Try to see whether he's really there with you while having sex, or if he's distant. If he's distant, that may mean he's fantasizing about something (that may involve you) or that he's thinking of someone else. Thinking of someone else is not necessarily a bad thing, unless it's an IRL lover, or unless it's a symptom of him not feeling so attracted to you anymore. It may happen that he feels your sexual relationships have become monotonous and boring, and he's trying to add something refreshing to them. That would be good news, because boredom is not a big deal and can be easily solved by using your imaginations to make sex fun again. Because sex should always be fun.

That said, there's also no substitute to talking things through. That's why taboos are harmful.

Different strokes they say. But I'm an avid porn watcher from way back in the Ginger Lynn days and as my interests have changed over the years so have my videos. But a few weeks ago while browsing my favorite porn shop I came across a video called "Granny porn" and of course the jacket pics were misleading but I said what the h..l. Out of the 6 scenes on the disc I'm only able to watch 2 without gagging. Not for me I'm afraid.