My wife gets so upset

There's always two sides to each story. Nobody "out here" can help without understanding what's going on from both sides. It's a problem when one side stops communicating. You do need to seek outside help.

If therapy is off the table for her, that doesn't mean it has to be off the table for you.

Go. Those people are professionals.

Ok I guess your right but she'll get passed if she finds out im going to therapy

I don't think anyone has ever told a female poster tht there are two sides to a story,

Just saying (there really aren't two sides),

Oh Max, Max, Max,

You couldn't resist could you.

You should write a book Max, call it say ''The Trials and Tribulations of the Neutered Male''.

Just get it off your chest and move on.


You could start a thread for ideas for the name of your novel, I'm sure you'd get some great suggestions.

She's already pissed at you. You've got nothing to lose.

But am I wrong in this case that there is a double standard? I think the way the modern left still propagates gender roles is interesting.

If you want help from professionals you're going to have to pay for it. I don't think there's any professional counsellors on A2K.

That's not to say you won't get some good advice, but it might not be what you need.

If that's true then she has a real problem. However, if you're only talking to her when there is a problem then she most likely sees your attempts to talk as criticism.

Why not try talking about more positive things? Ask her how her day was, remind yourself why you fell in love with her in the first place and tell her that.

Without more detail there's not a lot more I can say. You really need to talk to professionals.

Yea its not like the only time we talk is about a problem I tell her how important to me she is and why I love her and how sexy she is and all all the time but recently it's like she doesn't care like she went off because I didn't go to the gym with her instead I came home after a hard days work and worked on my degree and she was pissed wouldn't even kiss me or anything she's always agrivated at me over little **** all the time and it didn't used to be this way she gets upset and gives me cold shoulder for days we fight she says her nerves cant take it and walks away even when she the one who started it after she finally calms down she says she freezing even when it's hot af and falls asleep I don't get it I try to get her to go to concealing with me she says she don't want to because they going to tell her she's bi polar and put her on more meds I mean im at words end and it's already hard because im 25 and she is 41 she had the kids which I love add they are my own we have a good life I work hard we're not broke I mean we not rich but we ain't struggling either I mean f I make 2000 grand a month by myself life's good but to her it's stressful af the nothing to be stressed about. Idk but I have to dip something I can't keep doing this and leaving is not an option for me

If she won't see a counsellor there's nothing to stop you going on your own.

She might be going through the menopause.

I don't know, I'm no expert by any means, you need to talk to professionals.

I guess you should tell her that you love her and maybe you can try to invite her in restaurant or make for her some romantic surprise.