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Thu 27 Jun, 2019 03:40 am
I and my best friends stood by each other for 6 years now until she got engaged. We were those type of people who called each other every day to talk about random stuff, about work,about generally everything.
After her engagement with this guy whom her family chose, she would be shifting to the USA from India. So they speak as and how the time is permissible to them and she used to talk to me in the rest of the day. Suddenly, one day she realised that she is unable to develop a friendly relation with him. According to her, as a friend, the support that I give her,encourage her, has become a hurdle for her in establishing a friendship with her fiancé, because she thinks the base of every relationship is friendship.
So she told me not to talk to her. I asked if she is breaking contact and she said she can’t let me go but I have to do it because the love and support from me is emotionally drowning her in the sense that, we would be away after her marriage and she would only have her husband besides her. She also said that me constantly being around or in touch suffocates her. I am confused and unable to understand what’s to be done.
So back off. That's exactly what she's telling you to do.
Do you contact her every day? Then change that to once a week. If it's too much or too little, she'll tell you.
And for those times when you would have contacted her but aren't because you're pulling back, call a different friend. Or cultivate more friendships. Or do something for yourself.
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