Am I Overreacting?

Of course you're not overreacting.

Unless other arrangements are made, marriage comes with sexual fidelity -- and that includes not doing escorts. So unless your marriage is an open one, then you have every right to expect your husband to not stick it into unfamiliar women.

And even if, for sake of argument you were in an open marriage, then he's still being insensitive at best. He's dismissing your feelings and your opinion.

People who love each other listen when they're told they're hurting the other person, and they take steps to diminish that hurt and prevent it from happening again, because they love the other person and don't want to cause them any pain. They don't dismiss the other person's pain.

If he won't go to counseling, you can always go alone. Talk to an impartial professional and maybe start to formulate an exit plan from your marriage.

If this is where you are, then for yourself it is not overreacting. He knows how you feel about his sniffing around for another (the escorts) yet still is seeking them. His unwillingness to go to therapy, shows he's not ready to change.

If you still love him, there may be a a future. Are you thinking divorce or just a separation which might get his attention?

Thank you so much for your feedback. I have gone to counseling by myself. I just wanted to make sure I thought it through and wasn't being haste. I have tried all I could and now it's time to move on. Such a shame we have children together, but obviously, he don't care about them either.

Thank you so much. I was thinking separation for now but I know him. That will just fuel his, "hoeing" and her definitely won't change him.

If he continues as he is, that's on him, his choice and is not something you would be causing.

At any rate, I wish you the best in this and as Jespah said, at least have the counseling for yourself.

Absolutely! Thank you again. Stay blessed.