@PUNKEY,
PUNKEY wrote:
By “ counselor” I hope you mean Psychologist with services that include psychiatric services.
From what you describe, she is a teen that has an anxious temperament and cuts herself when she gets overwhelmed. This is more than just teen angst.
Yes - this is a licensed therapist experienced with teens.
And someone mentioned mentor - funny you say this. My daughter is involved in basketball - competitive basketball. The odd thing is she began therapy to help gain her confidence after having a serious injury and having surgery--- she could not play for a year and a half. She has now joined back up with her club team.
As far as the mentor - one of the female coaches (not her team coach but involved in the program) has just recently become her mentor. My daughter helps her coach the younger teams. She just came back last night from helping her coach 3 teams in their practice. She was elated. She loves it - this coach gave her suggestions on how to interact with the younger girls - my daughter went out of her comfort zone and did so - she is now very passionate about this.
So now most evening she is doing this - as long as she keeps up with her academics. I think this is going to help her a lot.
I have to confess - I found a couple of journals this morning - I was looking for my dogs toys in her room and I saw a couple of notebooks. Most is stuff I knew about that she already confessed to me.
There was one page that in large letters was "DIE NOW" - not sure what this was in reference to - but the next page talked about this boy that I mention above that said he liked her and then later kind of told her otherwise and now he loved his girlfriend.
Then I found another one that is even more recent - she wrote the pros and cons of the boy at her school that she was dating --- (positive there were things I talked to her about like taking a break completely from boys so she is maybe listening to me a little) -- and then another page where she talks completely about basketball and helping coaching and how much this coach is helping her just by listening. She talks about how passionate she is in coaching the younger girls and how happy she is with this and playing basketball.
Fortunately it is just the start of the spring season - so she typically practices 3 days a week and then almost every weekend she has games. She also wants to be at the games that younger players are at to help coach at them.
We did talk with her again and let her know to please come to us if she feels this way - or if she just wants to vent and talk out her feelings without us trying to fix or judge ---- she can call us if we are not there but we will listen without saying or doing anything.
I am just very worried about her -