@glitterbag,
glitterbag wrote:
I'm going to use some terribly old-fashioned words.....your daughters 'guests' were rude, disrespectful and ungracious. I'm sure part of your daughters distress is profound disappointment in her 'friends'. All of the invited girls knew they were in a friends vacation home, the disregard and disrespectful behavior indicates they are clods, ingrates and superficial. They are not worth your daughters time or friendship. She may not understand that right now, but I hope she puts some distance between herself and these bad-mannered, impolite, graceless girls.
That is pretty much what I told her.
So I reached out to her today - as they were all back at school last night. She had a "talk" with them. Seems the girl who was my daughter's best friend last year is the "ring leader". It irks me because my daughter was the one when they both freshman to reach out and make friends with this girl who seemed alone and unsure of herself - so my daughter went and started talking with her.
In any case the other two girls apologized. Not sure what this girl exactly said but according to my daughter she not only did not apologize she was down right rude about the whole situation. They were clear that the 3 of them were going to room together (rather than this larger group that was going to get an apartment together).
My daughter said she is no longer friends with the "rude" girl. She said she would have to see her around because she is friends with the others but my daughter said she is no longer hanging out with her.
I told her -- she should also limit her time with the other two as they obviously lack good judgement if they want to be friends with someone that is so hurtful and mean. I told her is better off and to circle herself with friends that are uplifting and positive.
I also told her that it is all their best interests if when I come to pick her up from the school - that none of those 3 girls are around. I certainly have no issue in letting them know exactly how I feel about their behavior and how they are never allowed in any of our family's homes.
I remember the last time our whole family went to visit last year. We stayed at a hotel that has kitchen and they have barbecues you can use on their grounds. We invited all my daughter's friends and their boyfriends to come over -- we fed about a dozen teens (including these 3 and two brought their boyfriends) - never again.