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Wed 2 Jan, 2019 02:32 pm
My fiancee an me had a new years party. We were having dinner with to male friends of ours. One of these guys is goiung through a horrific divorce. Lets call him Jim.
He was talking about all he had done to keep his exwife who is demandin a lot after the divorce-also included that he had paid her 200.000 dollars in cash, and was paying another 3000 dollars a month just to be nice. At this point, my fiance said loudly infront of everyone at the table "I cant believe you are beeing so nice, maybe I should let you **** with me so I can get some money..." We were just the 2 male friends, my fiancee and me at the table. It was a joke obiviously. I did not react or say anything at first. I had had many glasses of wine at the time, but I just got so angry and was thinking "how could she say something like this". Right after, my friend Jim goes to talk on the phone. My fiancee and out other friend saw something was going on with me and asked "whats wrong"? I told her I thought it was completely not funny and totally inappropriate.
Anyways: now, 2 days after, Im still angry. I havent taken up the issue again- am I overly jealous, or are my feelings justified?
If you need to ask strangers on the internet, then yes. Yes you are.
@Spusser,
I can understand the initial anger and thinking it is inappropriate but stewing about it after a couple days is too much.
Why do you think you are still angry about it? Curious - did she apologize or agree that she shouldn't have said that? Are you stewing because she didn't apologize or are you worried about something else?
I don't think your feelings are justified - we all make mistakes and perhaps say things that are not completely appropriate but no one else seemed to take offense and it really wasn't that bad (at least in my opinion). I think you need to learn to forgive and forget it is much healthier for you and your relationship.
@Spusser,
Spusser wrote: am I overly jealous
jealous of who/what?
your fiancee tried to make a joke. it fell flat
it was no big deal and would have stayed that way if you hadn't had too much to drink
@Linkat,
I believe you’re right. I guess I’m angry partly because she hasn’t apologised the day after. I know I would have if the situation had been the other way around.
Thanks for the answer and your point of view. It helps!
@Spusser,
Spusser wrote:e she hasn’t apologised the day after
she's supposed to apologize for a failed joke? really?
that's a sad sign for a relationship
@ehBeth,
Thanks- I agree, and it would be the same answer / advice I would have given had a friend come to me with this question.
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