Cheating wife and she lies about it

Bullshit. Divorce is no-fault in pretty much all of the US and western countries. Claim irreconcilable differences and move on.

And tell your confederate who will hack or bug phones or computers for a price that he's not invited.

Get yourself a therapist to talk to. That alone can help ease some of your anger, depression and frustration; it alone though may not be enough. Your wife will need to take responsibility for any affair/s she may have had. Try couples counseling. Even if she refuses to go, it can help you. Remember your personal well being is what is most important here. Take care of you first.


And, as Jespah advises, divorce is a very real option - and from what you wrote, I'd be out of that hellish home quicker than you could say Jack Robinson.

I thank you both for your response. And believe me I want a divorce but I have two kids under the age of 13 who I refuse to put through a divorce. I know most people are going to say they are in a bad environment but they really aren’t. I hide my emotions about the situation from them. I do everything in my power to mask all of this crap from them because they deserve so much better. I’m going to try my best to keep doing so until I have enough evidence on her that I won’t have to worry about who the judge awards my kids to when I do confront her. I just don’t understand how she can be so damn manipulative and of course even a damn preacher believes her side when looking down at her short dress and large breast! I have got to find someone willing to help me that isn’t trying to get in her pants!

I am a little confused as to what you mean by tell my confederate for a price he is not invited. Not being rude I am just asking why you think it is a he that is doing the hacking and bugging.