@Linkat,
Quote:I have before told him I took care of myself for over 30 years before I met you and was successful.
This response might be interpreted as defensive on your part, too. Perhaps a more positive way would be saying that you thank him for his concern and that you will keep it in mind. Underscore how you know how concerned you BOTH are based on his family's health problems.
It sounds like the husband is frustrated at all the people in his life that have not done enough to prevent health problems for themselves, diet-wise, so he is trying to police others and get them to do better. The best way to relieve him of this responsibility he feels is to prove to him that you are just as concerned with using diet for health-prevention as he is. If he doesn't go to the doctor and you do, he may think you are deferring responsibility to the doctor instead of doing all you can to optimize your own health. You can talk to him about this not being your reason for going to the doctor, i.e. that you are totally committed to being your first line of defense against health problems, and that a strong offense is the best defense. When he sees that you are as vigilant as he is, he will feel relieved that he is not the only person in the family who sees the possibility and importance of using diet to prevent health problems. Then, if your meal choice differs from what he considers healthy, you just explain to him why you saw it as a healthy choice and ask him why, for example, he is so afraid of a little tortellini when it is part of an overall health-conscious diet.
I think your husband just concern about your health. Is he health conscious? Maybe he is thinking that it is better to sacrifice some healthy habits than having a hospital bills. But if there is no reason at all then you have to ask him why he is doing that to you.
@Ragman,
Of course it was - and out of frustrated. I certainly am grown up enough to realize it that is why I said afterwards...
Quote:Though as self satisfying as saying something like that in moment feels good, it really accomplishes nothing.
@kateknow,
Yeah that is the point - I am health conscience. I do not obsess over it, but I eat healthy - I could go over the typical menu items I have but won't other than say at a high level I eat more vegan like although I do eat meat, chicken and fish - just significantly more veggies. I love veggies and will order a veggie burger or similar over a regular meat burger for instance.
He is just moving into the obsessive part.
@Linkat,
That was not me that said that.
@Ragman,
Ragman wrote:
Quote:I have before told him I took care of myself for over 30 years before I met you and was successful.
This response might be interpreted as defensive on your part, too. Perhaps a more positive way would be saying that you thank him for his concern and that you will keep it in mind. Underscore how you know how concerned you BOTH are based on his family's health problems.
This was my own quote I had in response to what you stated above
@Linkat,
Wow! I had no idea that my comment warrant that sort of response. I meant no ill will toward you and in any way ore did I think you weren't either grown up or competent. Peace.
