Affair is over. Need Advice

I have checked your recent posts and your advice and other users have accused you of bitterness and just Nasty comments. You "Beat up" on people as one user stated. (I'm not saying thats what your doing here)

I have apologized for my actions and i said i felt horrible. Im also not saying my Wife isn't trying. It seems you have selective reading.

Thank you for the advice.

one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was that both partners in a relationship need to try to put in 150%. that way if one of them has a bad day/week/month, there's still 100% coming in.

sit down with your wife (perhaps with the support of a counsellor) and sort out where things went wrong and what you both can do to make the marriage/relationshp more balanced.

move on first - get things in a stable place in your primary relationship

once that has happened, take another look at 'closure'. It's a bit of a trendy term these days - with everyone having their own definition of it. For quite a few people, moving on is closure.

That's not entirely accurate. You only see what you want to.

Your method is inherently flawed. You think you can just close Pandora's Box and everything is swept under the rug. What's going to happen in two months when your wife is just a wife again? You haven't fixed your marriage and the same old problems are going to creep up again. There's a statistic that says a cheater has a 350% chance of a repeat affair.

You have to stop the secrecy. Bring it out in the open and really re-connect with your wife. Or, most likely, you're doomed to repeat past mistakes. https://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/15-steps-to-surviving-an-affair/