@najmelliw,
"Relationships aren't about setting boundaries, they're about trust" Well, she has secrets and tells lies to cover her actions. So where is the trust coming from? Best example. She decided to go to a certain pub on a certain night, where it is almost inevitable that the ex-bf goes. You know, the one that sends romantic message/poems in greetings cards. Yeah, that one! So, she went there that night without mentioning she might. I had no idea, but I was at home when I had this strong intuitive thought. It was that she was going there, so I had a shave, got dressed up and drove over there. Sure enough her car was in the car park. She was in the pub, as was her ex-bf. On the night I decided not to go in and confront them, I regret that now. I waited until the pub closed and being one of the last out she shr drove out with him in the car. She gave him a lift home. She didn't go in, but hey! Two days later after our cinema night I asked her when she had last spoken to or messaged (not seen) him? SHe said she couldn't remember. She repeated this SIX TIMES when I kept asking the same question. When she realised it was a rhetorical question and that I knew, she finally admitted she saw him on the Monday, but she said that she never went there to see him, he just happened to be there! (A racing certainty) She had gone because, she said, it was Irene's Birthday. Yeah right. Which is why, I said, you spent the entire evening talking to him, NOT Irene and he bought ALL your drinks from when he got there and you gave him a lift home! Amazingly, she ended the evening saying that she was ending the relationship because she couldn't cope with my jealousy and because I didn't trust her!!!! So please add further comments including all previous repliers. Please tell me, am I right in wishing to set boundaries? Is that OK?