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Sat 3 Feb, 2018 12:16 am
We recently went on vacation with some friends to celebrate my husbands birthday. One of his friends had asked me previously if it was ok with me to take him to a “show”. I looked at the reviews and didn’t have any problem with it. The show was very professional but did simulate lap dances and had some audience participation. I wasn’t concerned about my husband, we’ve been married a long time and I trust him. He’s also not the type to get on stage. After the show we met up with them and all laughed about the show but he seemed to be acting a bit different toward me. That night I found about a dozen pictures of the “show” and felt a few of them to be inappropriate, disrespectful, and embarrassing to me (one of him making a kissing gesture to a poster of a dancer, and another of a close up of a dancers crotch with VERY tight bottoms on which left nothing to the imagination). I told him how I felt and he said his friend had asked him to take the pictures because he didn’t have as good of a seat. He also explained that the close up must’ve happened by mistake when a dancer walked in front of his phone because he was never looking at anyone’s crotch. Then he explained that he was going to send them to his single friends because it was funny and he would have deleted them at “some point”. He says this is normal behavior but I felt it was inappropriate, disrespectful, and embarrassing especially with him sending the pics to his friends. Am I overreacting and insecure or was he wrong to do this?
@Nsecure1,
I do think this is an overreaction, but I am not you.
Quote:I felt it was inappropriate, disrespectful, and embarrassing, especially with him sending the pics to his friends.
Yes, it was all of those things
Quote:Am I overreacting and insecure or was he wrong to do this?
You are not over reacting. You are married to a sleazebag. Unfortunately many men are like this.
@Nsecure1,
Nsecure1 wrote:Am I overreacting
I'd say you're over-reacting but you need to sort this out for yourself.
@Nsecure1,
Nsecure1 wrote:felt a few of them to be inappropriate, disrespectful, and embarrassing to me
you choose whether you feel embarrassed
I don't think (from your description) that they were inappropriate or disrespectful to you.
@ehBeth,
ehBeth wrote:I don't think (from your description) that they were inappropriate or disrespectful to you.
Not pictures of "him making a kissing gesture to a poster of a dancer, and another of a close up of a dancers crotch with VERY tight bottoms on which left nothing to the imagination)"?
@centrox,
nope
I'd be fine with it - probably get a fierce case of the giggles - but it's a no harm no foul situation for me.
hmmm
interesting
apparently this viewpoint is fine for roger but not for me
gotta wonder about that
@ehBeth,
How odd. For some reason, I thought we were in agreement.
@ehBeth,
No! You're messing with my mind.
He behaved like a sexist, misogynist, objectifying pig. Have you read any newspapers over the last 6 months?
@Nsecure1,
I think that you are overreacting. This is fairly normal behavior... heterosexual men like to see women in sexual situations. That is just a fact of the species.
What is acceptable in your marriage needs to be negotiated between you and your husband. Every couple is different. There are married couples who enjoy going to a strip club as a couple.
@maxdancona,
I would be better able to judge these shorts that "leave nothing to the imagination" if you would post the picture here

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@roger,
Quote:No! You're messing with my mind.
No, not your mind, roger. She's messing with mine. Believe it or not, this isn't happening to you; it's happening to me. Don't know how, but she's somehow making me think that she's messing with
your mind, but it's all in
my mind. Sorry you got mixed up in this.
Well, you did give permission for him to go . ...
Laugh this off. Little boys must play?
What birthday was this? (The number)