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Sun 28 Jan, 2018 02:41 am
She forgot about our date?
She initiated contact to plan a date for tonight at 7pm for desserts. Upon arrival, i arrived around 6:55 and proceeded to text her that i arrived. Thus, below is the actual text message content:
Me: You in town?
Her: Nah I m at home. Why
Me: Wasnt 7pm our meet up? haha
Her: lol oops totally forgot haha
Me: ok dw
Her: We can still do dessert. I ll get there in 15mins, if you want....
me: Its just idk how you forgot lol we made plans just before
Her: Very bad memory. So yes or no?
thats what was in the text. She then proceeded to ring me 3 times but i ignored it and went home and she fb messaged me saying "dude i have been trying to call you..". By the time she woulda came here it woulda been an hour after i came. i really dont want to waste my time
thing is in the previous dates, she would always come 30-2hours late but would text me continously, i even came late a few times myself and still came earlier than her. I pretty much went no contact till now which was for 4 days.
Who forgets a planned date when she planned it a few hours in advance? i just find it disrespectful and devaluing if someone forgets a planned date without apologising.
Did i do the right thing to ignore? still do kinda like her so i dont know if i should mend things?
It's your choice. I say "forget her".
@Sorae,
Forgetting a planned date once, is not the biggest issue. Her not apologizing for forgetting the date is a much bigger deal. Her not apologizing shows a total lack of respect to you.
When I plan a date with someone, I will always reconfirm our date close to the time of our planned date. You never know. She might have forgotten. She might have overslept. Anything could have happened. It doesn't hurt to call again right before you leave to go your date. If either myself or my date is going to be late, it is common courtesy to call the other person to let them know and apologize.
Chronically late? I couldn't stand it. It would be a deal breaker for me.
I know that.
You will have to decide if that bothers you so much - and doesn't bother her at all.
@PUNKEY,
For me, too. I would feel someone didn't value my time, and that they were only showing up when other, preferred plans fell through.
@Sorae,
Sorae wrote:
Me: You in town?
Her: Nah I m at home. Why
Me: Wasnt 7pm our meet up? haha
Her: lol oops totally forgot haha
Me: ok dw
Her: We can still do dessert. I ll get there in 15mins, if you want....
me: Its just idk how you forgot lol we made plans just before
Her: Very bad memory. So yes or no?
did you respond with a no?
I sure hope so.
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In any case, doesn't seem like you two are good matches.
Forget about it - move on. Hopefully you'll find someone you can communicate well with.
@Sorae,
Sorae wrote:Did i do the right thing to ignore?
I actually think you're both about equally rude based on your OP.
Both of you could be more mature.
Learn from it and move on.
Could be an honest mistake. She was willing to still meet up with you. I say give it a second shot. But if it happens again ... peace out.
Nevermind, I didn't read the whole thing before I posted that. You need to get a move on.
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