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Fri 17 Nov, 2017 11:26 am
I met this man almost 7 years ago online in a game Room. We had fun playing and started making calls which turning into video calls. We talk EVERYDAY and all day long on chat or phone. I consider him my best friend . We talk about everything . We we met he was married I was not . Being such good friends we fell in what I call love but it was simple. I had met someone which caused issues beteeen us but we over came because we both knew he would not leave his wife nor did I ever ask him too or ever would to this day. We talked about meeting for years but I was always Leary knowing that it may lead to more and I’m not that girl. Well we met after 51/2 years ...it was amazing! We have met several times (we live 7 hours apart) and everytime it has gotten better and I’m so in love with him and he is with me but we know that it won’t go any farther . But now is the hard part, I am aching for him and want to be with him and I know I should leave him but I can’t . He’s my best friend first, lover second. Leaving him will be the hardest thing but I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t wnat to hurt my husband over someone that will only be a best friend. I hurt when I’m away I hurt when We were together .... is anyone able to give me advice and not just bash me ?!
@Havefaithinme,
You haven't been honest with your husband. Your husband married you, presumably expecting not only fidelity but also a high degree of friendship with you. You've provided him with neither.
As we say, **** or get off the pot. Either go all in, leave your husband for this guy 7 hours away (chances are EXTREMELY bad that he would leave his wife, see:
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/17/infidelity-survey_n_5168797.html) or go all in with your husband and block your long distance pal.
Or leave them both. Being in between is dishonest and you know it.
You are fantasizing this affair and this man's commitment to you..
Best friend? Lover? Madly in love ?
Then why don't you two have the guts to leave your spouses and be together?
Because reality gets in the way - and deep down, you know it.
I'n not bashing you, just telling you to have a more clear vision of this.
@PUNKEY,
Thank you for not bashing me..,yes we were friends first ...never intended or thot it would go this far.... Ik what to I just need to hear it....I have told no one of this so I have no one to talk to about it ... hoping hearing what others say will help me do what I need to
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