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Sun 12 Nov, 2017 11:31 pm
Hey guys,
My name is Nader I'm 18 years old, I'm struggling with something that made me not sleep well at night thinking about it.
Anyways let's get into it,
I work at a supermarket as a cashier on my gap year, and last Friday suddenly there was this beautiful girl that I liked and never expected she would like me too, she came to our supermarket for only one day advertising some product, so I was at cashier number 10 really near to her like only 3ft away or smth, then suddenly she noticed me! she started looking at me multiple times I freaked out like I never expected this will happen and this girl will actually be into me, anyways there was a moment like 5-7 seconds we got a hold on each other and looked at each other constantly! at that point, I couldn't stand on my feet from my nervousness, and so what happened is I've gone I talked to her after 10 minutes but I was awkward and stupid, like I talked about the product she's advertising that's all! I didn't ask for her number or anything I was too afraid to do it in front of my workmates, anyways when I got back to my cashier after talking with her with that stupid subject, she kept looking at me every now and then with that pretty eyes! she gaved me so many signs to ask for her number but I was too shy to do it and I felt great pain at my chest I couldn't sleep well, I'm a good looking guy but not social at all, anyways guys let's continue, at 11 clock her work is finished and she was ready to go, in her way out she passed from my cashier and said goodbye to me hoping that I'll stop her or smth, and still I didn't say a word, I feel a great regret and so much pain that I lost that beautiful girl, anyways I kept looking for ways to find her again...
And finally, I got hold on her manager from an Instagram page of the product she was advertising! I called the number and asked him "where you guys going to advertise your product next?" then he said we will advertise at **** next weekend." he gaved me the location and the day (Thursday) , I was so excited at that moment and nervous at the same time, so now it's only 3 days away until I meet her again, and I'm not sure what to say when I see her again after 5 days will she remember me? will she still be attracted towards me? so many questions that making me so nervous like I'm going to explode
Please, guys, I need your help and these are my questions:
What should I do when I first see her?
How should I start the conversation? Hey! finally, I got a hold of you (LOL)
Will she still be interested in me after 5 days long?
What are the things I should say and not say?
Will she remember me?
@naderjack,
So, you never saw this stranger before, you thought she was flirting with you when she looked and was trying to sell her product, you talked about the product with her and nothing else, she courteously said goodbye to you and now it'll be 5 days later and you wonder what to do? Do I have all of it?
Here are a few things to keep in mind:
- People in sales are paid to be pleasant
- Their pleasantness can often feel like flirting.
- It's not. It's sales. Full stop.
- Even if for some odd reason it is flirting, flirting doesn't always mean anyone wants to go anywhere with it.
- Looking is nice but it doesn't mean ****. There were also people and things around you. Perhaps she was looking at those things. You don't really know.
- What you think were signs she was sending for you to ask for her number are your interpretation plus, it appears, a boatload of wishful thinking. You may be right, that she's interested or she was, but you don't really know, now, do you? Consider this: if a guy looked at you a lot, or a gal you didn't think was pretty did so, would you think they were just itching for you to ask for their number? Probably not.
- People in sales meet dozens of folks all the time. It takes a lot to make an impression on them because they are usually in a volume business (because this product was being offered in a supermarket, then I guarantee she's in a volume business. The only sales people who aren't in volume are people who sell luxury goods - and she wasn't).
- Therefore, it is highly unlikely she will remember who you are, but there also hasn't been a lot of time that elapsed. Maybe she will.
- A good-looking person in sales is hit on. All. The. Time.
- Trying to follow her around to her next sales assignment is borderline stalker-y and creepy.
If you want to have a conversation, say hello. And for crying out loud, don't start it with - oh, I've been looking for you; I just got a hold of you; etc. Because then that really IS stalker-y.
Life is not the movies. Following and chasing the pretty girl often isn't romantic. It can be borderline obsessive and make people really uncomfortable.
Is she receptive to your advances? Say hello and have a nice chat - and not about the product this time. After 10 minutes ask, "I'd like to continue this conversation later but I have to go. Can I have your number, please?" And see what happens. And, by the way, whether she gives you her number or not, leave 5 minutes after that. Because if you get the number, fine - you said you had to go, so go! And if you don't get the number, then consider it done and dusted and let it go.
@jespah,
Thanks for clearing things up,
Anyways, I’ll give it a try this Thursday and act like I didn’t know she was there,
If I got her number I’ll be happy, if not then at least I tried and I won’t keep regretting for not asking. Then I’ll be able to move on.
I’ll let you know what happens!
Thanks bro
@naderjack,
I'm a dudette (damn, why don't people notice the pink bunny suit?). And, you're welcome.
@jespah,
Hahaha omfg, I'm sorry! xD
And here's Thursday I'm going to meet her at noon,
Let's see what happens.
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