@ndcz,
Time to have what we call in the business world the 'come to Jesus meeting'.
This is where you sit down and talk until everyone is on the same page.
Recognize that in a relationship that page might be you two being broken up. It happens. But at least you'll know.
So contact him. "
Dave (or whatever his name is),
I want to talk about what's going on with us, because I'm confused. Can we get together on Saturday (or whatever day is good)
afternoon (go with morning or afternoon; don't give him a reason to confuse this for a date)
at my place (I prefer neutral locations but a lot of them are not too private. You don't want to do this at a restaurant. Your place means you have the comfort of being on your own turf)
and talk?"
He will do one of the following, most likely:
- He doesn't bother answering - then you know it's over
- He answers but says he doesn't want to talk about it or you don't need to talk about it - then it's pretty close to being over, too. People in love have conversations. If he's trying to change the relationship into FWB or the like then you need to know that so you can decide accordingly whether you wish to continue
- He insists on a public place - then there's hope but you'll need some measure of privacy. A public park might work but you are beholden to the weather that way. Work it out together where you're going to go
- He wants a different day - there's hope and of course just work out the best day and time. Make it clear this isn't a date; it's a talk
- He insists on his place - that's fine; just make certain you have the means to leave, whether that's cab fare or an Uber or a car or a bus pass
- He insists on talking at that moment - then do so
You are absolutely entitled to know WTF is going on. You've been together long enough that he should at least clearly tell you it's over, rather than just ghost you and hope you'll go away on your own.
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