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Sun 29 Oct, 2017 01:47 pm
So my boss is known to be really tough at work. A lot of people have complained that he's unrealistic with deadlines, super anal about the work and very aggressive.
Women in my position have hated him. I'm fairly new but I only hear complaints. For some reason he ALWAYS helps me. He always come by my desk to chat..he comes by my desk 3-4 times a day for about 10-15 minutes to talk.
We talk about work, joke around about other workers he fired and of course he compliments me. He always calls me over to his desk to watch him do work. Asks me for input and advice... I would say this is normal but he only does it to me.
He maintains direct eye contact during a conversation, glances at my lips sometimes, I've caught him looking at me a few times.
He always complains about his wife being the chain and weight. One day he was walking out the door around 4:15 and stopped by my desk to talk and ended up leaving at 5:30p...when the phone rang he freaked out and said, "is that my wife?"
Weird...
Recently I found out that one of my ex's is one of his clients. We were joking and he asked me if the guy planned on rekindling anything with me... also asked 2 times how old he is..
He mentioned to me the other day that we talk a lot. I'll go over to his desk to ask a question..then leave. He'll get up and follow me to my desk.
One of our coworkers always jokes around with him and tells him to give me the work. Implying some sort of favoritism.
Last week I was told by my manager to come in on Saturday to do some overtime to help finish some work. I told my boss I would be here on Sat...
When I walked in and checked my email there was an email from him around 5am asking if I've done some work... 5am on a Saturday?
I mean...am I just looking into things or..
@blaaaaahhhhhze,
blaaaaahhhhhze wrote:
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We talk about work, joke around about other workers he fired ...
This is utterly inappropriate behavior, and should be reported to HR.
@jespah,
When I tell him its mean he says oh but you know I'm being honest.
You're good though. You're not going anywhere...
@jespah,
jespah, Some people become managers, because their superior isn't qualified to be in that position.
@blaaaaahhhhhze,
So? It doesn't stop being inappropriate because he flatters you.
If I had been let go from your company and found out our boss was yapping about me, I would be consulting with an attorney to see about what to do.
PS You may not feel harassed, but your boss has a position of power over you, and he is wielding it in a really unprofessional manner.
@jespah,
Never did I say it wasn't inappropriate..
I was simply letting you know what he was saying. I am asking this question not because little 'ol me feels so flattered and cute.. But little 'ol me is considering finding another job.
So I need to know is this me overthinking things or is this behavior what I think it is.
@blaaaaahhhhhze,
blaaaaahhhhhze wrote:So I need to know is this me overthinking things or is this behavior what I think it is.
You are not overthinking things, and that behaviour is exactly what you think it is.
Is there an HR department where you work?
I'd consider finding another job and making sure the inappropriate behaviour/comments be part of your exit interview.
If no HR department , put your concerns in writing to the company owner.
@blaaaaahhhhhze,
Okay; it's hard to read motivation online.
You're not overthinking things. This behavior is wrong and needs to stop, one way or another.
He's a creep and disrepectful to women, but really, he hasn't threatened, propositioned you or touched you, has he?
Have you ever told him that you were uncomfortable talking about his wife or past employees or just walked away?
I'm not sure what HR would do except warn him that he is on thin ice. He will deny it.
Yes, look for another job, if only because he's a creep.
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