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Is it over with this girl?

 
 
Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:13 am
I like this girl and I think she knows. We live in a dorm and she’s my neighbor.
I’ve had good chats with her out at the pub and I really felt she enjoyed talking to me. She seemed to like it when I put my arm around her shoulder.
One night I messaged her “Did you get back safely hun? Just making sure.” She replied the next morning “I did! Thanks for checking up on me.”
One time, she came in my room asking how she looked and used my mirror for a bit.
One night, I told her that I've knocked on her door a couple of times for a chat and she told me to message her if there’s no answer.
I messaged her one night. “Feel like company for a bit?” She replied in the morning, “Sorry Nick. I was fast asleep when you sent this.” (She was).
I messaged her one night asking what she's up to. She said she got back from work and was chilling in her friends room. I asked her to come chat if she wanted to. She ended up coming for a second, but not sure if she did because she saw my fb message. She said "Hey. I'm exhausted. Fell asleep in my friend's room. What are you doing for the weekend." I said Dunno. There's no more football. It's gonna be horrible". She said "yeah. Nothing on tv too. I'm going home tomorrow, but back Sunday." We just said night.

One time I saw her as she was going in her room. We had a good 5 min social chat. During the talk, she either used her hand to keep her door open or me using my foot. She didn't smile, but did make eye contact. I put my hand against the wall to lean on and her eyes opened wider a little for a second.
I saw her at the pub the other night. I was sitting down chatting. When she walked past me, I gave her a big wave. She took a quick look at me and continued walking while giving me a little wave that wasn't really a wave. I realized she was probably busy because when I looked at where she was going, she was actually comforting a friend. After that, she walked round the back of the bar while looking in my direction for a couple of seconds. There was no expression on her face.

I was at the pub a few nights ago and we were kind of avoiding each other I think. I know I was. I looked at her one time when her group was near me. She was facing me, but her eyes were looking down. Not her head, just her eyes. Then towards the end of the night, out of the blue, she rubbed my shoulder and said bye and walked off. I looked behind me slowly and saw her waving at me while walking and I waved back. She gave me a kind of sorry/sad look too as she waved.
One final thing. I run a radio show at the uni, and I made a segment called love song dedications. Yesterday I ran a survey for people to dedicate a song to someone if they want. I had no idea she would contribute. She dedicated the song "Ring of Fire by Johnny Cash. She wrote "For putting in a lot of effort into the dorm and making me feel welcomed".
I was walking into my room and my other neighbour (who's also female) yelled out hi. Then i heard the neighbour talk about me because I'm sure I heard my name and my crush's name being said. I didn't really hear what was said, except the neighbour saying this sentence clearly. "How can you fall in love with someone that's not your type".
Based on that last part, I should move on, correct?
 
ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:21 am
@hopelessnick,
Based on your post, you know a whole lot of nothing about how this young woman feels about you.

Ask her out for an afternoon. Go to a coffee shop. Go for a walk. Go to an afternoon movie. Go to a museum. Go to an art show. Something light, not involving alcohol.

Ask her out in person when you next see her.

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Seriously. You can't tell anything from what you've posted. You don't know what she and her dorm-mate were talking about. The dorm-mate could easily have been talking about herself.
hopelessnick
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:24 am
@ehBeth,
I know she was talking about me and my crush 100%. And I also 100% know she said "How can you fall in love with someone that's not your type" in the same conversation.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:28 am
Is it over?

Nothing started yet.
hopelessnick
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:29 am
@ehBeth,
I'm not her type.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:30 am
@hopelessnick,
That doesn't mean that the falling in love sentence had to do with you.

You were not in the conversation and you do not know the history of their discussions.

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If you are interested in her, ask her out.
hopelessnick
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 09:31 am
@ehBeth,
For the purpose of this argument, let's pretend she was talking about me. What would you say then?
jespah
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 10:38 am
@hopelessnick,
It ain't over because it never started.

Ask. Her. Out.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 11:13 am
@hopelessnick,
I'd say it was weird that she thought she was falling in love with someone she doesn't really know.


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If you are interested in her - ask her out.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Tue 17 Oct, 2017 12:21 pm
Your neighbor may or may not have been talking about you. So why bother?

Look - if you like this girl, ask her out. You have had enough 'chats' - now it's time to step up your game.

I am assuming you are over 21 because you went to a pub, right?

Time for some action or stay in the dorm mate role.
hopelessnick
 
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Reply Wed 18 Oct, 2017 01:49 am
@PUNKEY,
Also, one thing I found out. The other night, when she was with a couple of my mates and her mates they were talking about the dorm. Apparently she said, "Nick's always in his room every time I come back from work to the dorm." What do you make of that?
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Wed 18 Oct, 2017 06:02 am
Dorm mates talk about each other. She just made an observation. You don't know what or who she talked about after that.

What does all that have to do with you and her?

You seem obsessed with your own self. You also listen to what other people say and think.

Enough!! She has hinted that she is open to being a friend. Start THERE.

And hurry up. Some other guy will swoop in while you delay.
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hopelessnick
 
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Reply Thu 19 Oct, 2017 01:53 am
I created a new dedication survey for my next radio show. I got one from her again, but it obviously wasn't her even though it said her name. The person dedicated the song "Right Thurr by Chingy to me. Reasoning - "For dedicating a song last week to a girl in his dorm lol". What do you think of that?
jespah
 
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Reply Thu 19 Oct, 2017 05:19 am
@hopelessnick,
I think it's dopey.

Man up and ask her out. Stop trying to read tea leaves to figure out her feelings or map out all of her billions of potential reactions.
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hopelessnick
 
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Reply Thu 26 Oct, 2017 11:11 am
So at the pub tonight I thanked her for the song dedication (the first one) and she's like what song? She said she didn't send me a song dedication. It looked like she had no idea what I was talking about and she went red in the face. I felt like she started to feel uncomfortable, so I started to walk off and she said bye in a tone that sounded like she thought I was rude for walking off. Thoughts?
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