Splitting living expenses

What was your counter-response? What do you want?

PS this house has expenses- utilities, taxes, insurances, repairs. How will these be Paid?

He has clearly never heard of things like property taxes or maintenance.

Are you wanting to charge your fiance rent?

Exactly my point, there are many home expens s and they all fall on me, not to mention groceries.
I think he should contribute what he has been paying for rent. He will get a lot more for his money. He lives now in a small apartment with no yard versus a large fully furnished home on 3 acres, heat and electric, groceries, laundry and cooking. I live on the edge of a state park with many sports available. This is a place he could invite family and friends.
I do not want to charge him rent but I do not and cannot carry him either.
His just being here on weekends significantly increases my bills for elec and groceries, he is twice my size.

Or insurance, groceries

He says he will pay half the utilities and half the cable total!

Then he's a cheapskate.

If he was living in an apartment, his rent would be considerably higher. The fact that you own the place doesn't magically make it a free place to live. And it also didn't emblazon a sign on your forehead that said sucker.

If he is like this right now, and with something that should be pretty damned fundamental, how can he be with anything else? It's one thing if he hasn't a dime to his name. But my impression here is that he does - it's just that he thinks these aren't his expenses to bear.

BTW, a marriage license is probably not going to change his way of thinking.

You're in a losing proposition before you even consider marriage. This guy seems to be taking advantage of you in more ways than just the rent. It's up to you to decide whether this arrangement is worth it to you - for now and the future. Your choice.

I'm wondering why he wants to put the money in an account where you both have to agree on what it's spent on?
Will this be an account with your name only or is he suggesting a joint account?
If you had a different person as a room mate & charged them rent, they would have no say so in what you do with that money.
It sounds like he could be a little controlling. (Maybe a lot)
Whether you're working or not shouldn't be part of the question.
It's your house, should be your rules & your decision of where the money needs to go if he moves in.

This says a lot about this guy:
He is not a loving, generous man.
He is disrespectful of your hard work and possessions.
He doesn't respect the need to take care of other's property.
He doesn't appreciate you.

Thank goodness you found out all this before marrying him!!

Unfortunately, marriage has not been declared void.