Are there no good single women left?

I've wondered about that, and am nobody's idea of an authority. Still, be available, be patient, and don't settle for someone who clearly isn't the right someone for you.

Sorry. I feel like I might as well not have replied.

Not at all. You said exactly the right thing.

Where did you meet this "remarkable" woman? That's worth a place to go to meet nice people.

Her friends might be of interest, too.

My point is: go where the "remarkable" people are.

Yep. Fish where the fish are.

Is being religious important to you? Then look in your house of worship and ask your fellow parishioners if they know anyone.

Is being intelligent important to you? Then take a class at the local college and chat up the women there and also ask if they know anyone.

Is being athletic important to you? Then try the gym. Artistic? Then go to an art gallery or an artists' hangout. Good with kids? Then volunteer at your school and talk to the teachers, and also go to the parks and playgrounds when the nannies are there (do try not to be creepy about this, of course).

As Punkey said, go where there are people who interest you. Because they are either going to be the women who interest you or they are going to know women like that.

I met her at work. She is a coworker.

The number one problem we single middle aged people have is that our standards are too high. We are looking for "remarkable" women (and men) instead of looking for relationships.

You are probably not perfect. The women you meet are not perfect. If you find someone you click with... you are going to have to overlook some of the ways that this other person isn't perfect, and they will have to overlook your defects.

We should be looking for remarkable relationships; ones that we can build and work on and enjoy. If you are looking for a "remarkable" person who meets all of your criteria, you might never find a relationship.

I have very little free time to hang out anywhere. I commute an hour to work, so a shift takes 11 hours out of the day. I also work evenings which means I'm working while most other people are socializing. I wish I had a church home, but I have been unable to find one since moving here 3 years ago.

Then look for love online.

Any suggestions? I was on eharmony for 2 years with literally nothing beyond the intro questions. I had a friend even help me redo my profile to try and get more interest with no result.

I would suggest what worked when I was doing the personals back in the day - quality and quantity, combined.

Quality - make your profile as great as it can be. This means positive language, it means completeness, and it means as good a recent picture as you can get. Have a friend take several pictures - as in at least 20 - and start to figure out your best side, that sort of thing. Positive language means you don't lie but you also don't couch things in negative terms, e. g. saying "I don't like women who smoke." can be replaced with "I like women who don't smoke." or "I prefer non-smokers." It's subtle but people will pick up on it. You want to show you're a positive, friendly person, and too many negatives in a profile will contradict that.

Quantity - know your absolute requirements and reply to a set number of people who fit your criteria every week (or day, if appropriate). At the time, I was 25 so the age range I was looking for was 20 - 35. I would still consider a profile if the age was not mentioned, but if an age was mentioned and it fit in my wheelhouse, I was more likely to respond to that profile. I used to contact 10 - 20 profiles/week - and I'm a woman, which means I was more likely to get responses. And I did. I often had more responses than I could handle. Men, particularly older men, will have fewer responses, which is why you need to play a numbers game. Don't respond to everyone, but do respond to more women than you think you need to.