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Sun 17 Sep, 2017 09:18 am
My husband was digging a hole for the planting of a tree while I was at work and he took a picture of the hole and sent it to me with the comment, "has your name on it". He said it was just a joke, but it honestly disturbed me and I feel he went too far. He is mad at me for "going nuts" about his "joke", but I want to know if I'm overreacting or is my level of uncomfortableness warranted? TIA
@Jant1234,
Without any more background on your relationship this just reads like an isolated incident not worth obsessing over.
@hightor,
unless your name is really on it,(especially with a date like next Qednesday, Thursday at the latest).
My wife often says(bout me) "I wont divorce him, because murder requires so much less paperwork and you know I hate paperwork"
@hightor,
Not obsessing. I don't honestly think he'd try to kill me. I'm pretty sure a relationship forum wouldn't be my first stop if that was the case, lol. Just want to know if anyone thinks it's disrespectful.
@Jant1234,
Seems like a fairly harmless joke, unless there were problems in the relationship that already had you concerned.
It's a joke. Is it worth having a fight/argument about? there must be more important things going on in your life.
@Jant1234,
Not in the best taste for sure, but I would only be concerned if there was some underlying pattern of emotional abuse. Does he frequently make jokes in bad taste or say rude/hurtful things and then accuse you of being too sensitive or say you're overreacting? That would be a troubling pattern to me and something that needs to be addressed immediately. If this is an isolated situation then I would say you've registered your complaint and move on.
My wife and I make jokes like this all the time. Like when she does my nose hairs for me with the little scissors out of the medicine cabinet and says "I'm going to cut your goddamn nose off, you bastard". I have not try not to laugh or she might just snip me accidentally. In a close relationship the word "disrespectful" has no place. That's what I am focusing on.
If this isn't your usual type of joke bantering between you two, then I can see why you are Upset
But I bet you are more hurt than anything.