BOYFRIEND PEED ON MY CLOSET

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So my boyfriend came home pretty drunk after 10 beers at his friends last night around 11. He didn't go get ready for bed just climbed in beside me smelling like booze and snoring keeping me awake like he does when he's drunk. Then at around midnight I wake up to this water-like sound and look around and can't see him. I turned on the light and he was standing in my closet peeing all over my clothes and all over my closet floor. I yelled at him obviously shocked and he turned to me and told me "It's fine go to bed". I was so confused and he put all his clothes on and just ran out the door and drunk drove to his brothers house for the night. Leaving me there with his pee. I was upset and confused and sopped it up and threw my wet clothes in a bag. He came back the next morning and said he had slept walked and didn't remember it and left of embarrassment. He took my clothes away to be washed and cleaned my closet floor. I feel really bad I would be embarrassed too, but right now I'm just having a hard time wrapping my head around it and looking at him the same. I'm happy he came back and cleaned it but mad he drunk drove home. I told him he should cut back the drinking and he said no and that it's sleep walking not drunk walking. Would you break up over this? Should I talk to him more about it or just let it go and move on from it?

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I would break up over the peeing. However my girlfriend said she knew a few guys who did stuff like that when she was young and she forgave them. Young guys do stuff like that when they are drunk. It is is booze walking, not sleep walking. She says she would break up with a guy these days who did this. If you love him or not is for you to say. The drunk driving is worse. He has a problem but won't admit it. He drove to your house and also to his brother's while drunk? How long have you been seeing him? How old are you?

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@jussomegirl,

Drunken blackout where he doesn't remember a thing and then denies the importance of looking at his drinking?

Get out now!!

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@centrox,

I do love him but I want a better apology or even explanation of what in the heck happened last night. I'm 22 and we've been together just over a year

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@jussomegirl,

He may have a problem with alcohol and is in the throes of alcoholism. His doing crazy things and then essentially not remembering and trying to pass it off as "sleep walking", all indicate he is in trouble.

If you are in the U.S. try to hook up with Al-Anon. They are there for friends and family of the booze hound.
Here is a link: https://al-anon.org

In the end, only you can decide what you can put up with, no matter how much you love him.

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A guy I knew told me years ago that he was house-sitting for someone who had gone away for 6 months. He came home really drunk one night and in the morning found he had crapped on the white carpet in the bedroom. He managed to clean most of it up but could not get rid of a faint coloration. He found a specialist cleaning company and they put it right for him. Cost him around the equivalent of $150 in US money. This was around 1985. He was very embarrassed but the cleaning guy said it was more common than you might think. He did cut back on his drinking after that.

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@jussomegirl,

He is, most likely, an alcoholic.

You cannot fix him without a ton of help and without him wanting to fix himself.

You will, honestly, be doing him a solid by letting him go so he can hopefully hit rock bottom before he kills someone with his car.

I'm sorry if this is harsh but I dated a guy somewhat like this over 30 years ago. He didn't get any help until he figured out he couldn't lean on me anymore and sweep his problems under the rug.

This guy needs professional help. Love him enough to make it so that his only choice is to get it.

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