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Tue 15 Aug, 2017 05:29 am
Hi,
My name is Thomas And I am 26 years old.
I've been talking to a girl for almost one year. She is been very very very open to me, I never had any trust issues with her.
Now after 9 months, she gave me her instagram account (she gave me it before too) and I told her that I will follow her and also told her my account.
I told her around 10.00 AM that I follow her with the account(she is private). I saw at that time that she had 300+ posts and followed 300 people when I requested the follow. At around 11.00 AM she had All of a sudden her posts dropped down to 140 and she followed 250 people and then she accepted me. I even saw her literally deleting posts between that time.
The problem we are having now is this and that's also the reason why I want you guys to comment on it: She thinks I am crazy for being suspicious in this case while I think that everyone who would experience this would be suspicious.
Who is right? Would you be suspicious in this case? Am I crazy or is it normal?
Thank you.
Best,
Thomas
@Thomas12,
Everybody has things they want to keep to themselves. Being her friend doesn't mean you have the right to know everything about her. You're not in a relationship, and unlikely to be if you get this suspicious about what is just a friendship.
@Thomas12,
People delete and archive posts all the time. By expressing this level of distrust you've probably shot your chance at an actual relationship. Suspicion like this is a huge red flag in any sort of relationship. People don't want to be with someone that scrutinizes their every action like they are a criminal. It gets old REALLY quick.
@izzythepush,
We are not in a friendship type relationship, we are getting engaged at the end of the year! We are also not in a boy/girlfriend relationship, it's kinda different in our culture.
But thanks for the reply!
@Thomas12,
If you are not friends, there is no point in getting engaged. None.
@Thomas12,
Thomas12 wrote:The problem we are having now is this and that's also the reason why I want you guys to comment on it: She thinks I am crazy for being suspicious in this case while I think that everyone who would experience this would be suspicious.
seriously. none of your business.
if you're in a culture where you'll marry regardless of not being friends, none of this matters. you will live separate lives, married for family reasons only
what she does online is really NONE of your business - dating/engaged/married/whatever - NONE of your business
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