I really need help guys, I broke up with this girl about 2 month ago for a stupid reason. I was always kinda pushing her away but i still really cared about her and i told her that many times. She was my first ever girlfriend and i really care about her, Only time we argued was on the phone or during the text, we never argued in person. She was telling me how she thinks im different compared to other guys and she really cares about me. One day we were having nice conversation and i told her that I never get angry, literly never but i told her that if i ever do get angry at her and call her stupid things, JUST IGNORE ME. and i though she understood, shes been through a lot of **** realtionship and what i did was really fucked up and i knew it was wrong. last 2 weeks before we broke up was kinda hard and difficult because she caugh ringworms because she was petting kitten in the street and i got it too and we couldnt hangout and it was getting difficult, It was getting difficult and one day when we were talking on the phone i told her " I call you all the time and text you, if i dont call or text you anymore will you? will you text or call me?" and she said no but that day she told me she was so sorry and words like that dont mean anything and all of that stuff, i accepted her apology but i wanted to make her feel bad in a way. and I WENT TOOO FAR. I got mad at my parents at one point and when she was texting me i called her DUMB BItch, devil and all that stupid thing. i told her to block me and delete all my pictures and so she did, later that night i realized what i have done and tried everything, i knew if i gave her time i could have gotten her back but i ddint have that much of an experience, so i gave her a note with flowers at her house, i used literaly 20 instagram accounts to apologize and everything. i waited outside of her house and treid to talk to her but nothing worked, after that i didnt see or spoke with her for like a month and i have a wart on my finger and when i went to dermatologist she was working there i didnt know so she was treating me even at this day i go and see her, first day when i saw her we had small talk while she was treating it and i asked if she wanted to hangout but she said maybe one day, so after couple weeks when i was going there i tried to explain that im sorry and stuff but she wouldnt listen to me, i sent my friends after her to talk to her and i think it made things worse she told me to leaver her alone and to move on. But i dont beleive in this bullshit. Plus her best friend talks **** about me and poisoned her mind. but i dont give up easily, 5 days ago i got drunk and i tried to add her on snapchat, i knew she had me blocked but for some reason it added her and 2 minutes later she added me back, she barely sees my stories because she doesnt even uses snapchat that much. when i went to her office we had small talk and she told me how shes goign to vacation for 6 days and i told her how i stareted modeling again and it was pretty nice conversation. I know she is hurt by what i did and i try to get back with her, what should i do guys? i was thinking about i can talk to her half sister whos 35 and explain it to her, or maybe its a bad idea or maybe i can text her on snapchat and talk about game of thrones or something, guys please I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP. im a really nice guy and i want to make things right but i need help
You could benefit from some counselling. You drove her away. She is gone. Accept that. You have more important things to straighten out, judging by what you have written.
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jespah
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Fri 4 Aug, 2017 02:23 pm
@TengoBea,
Don't call anyone a stupid bitch who you think you might want to date, ever.
Rookie mistake.
So, what to do?
Give her some space and stop being so damned smothering. Give it some time and live your life apart for a few months. Give it a chance to die down and if you try again and she's okay with you (I wouldn't be, but I'm not her), then ask her out again. If not, then consider it done and dusted.
And this problem is nothing new. The world will keep spinning if you don't get back together.
Enjoy the Jackson Five.
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TengoBea
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Fri 4 Aug, 2017 02:43 pm
guys i know i made a big mistake i dont really annoy her or anything. we dont even talk, even she told my friend that it wasnt a big deal, but theres always a way no? im not pushing her anymore like i did 2 month ago, its just im a really good guy and what i did was really fucked up and no one deserves to be called that but i really love her and hopefully you guys will understand
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TengoBea
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Fri 4 Aug, 2017 03:03 pm
I know i made my self look bad in this post but not really, every time we hangout and whenever she was sad or wasnt feeling good i was trying to cheer her up, i introduced her to my parents and to everyone, she also came over during easter and we had so much fun together, we had lot of good memories together and personally i cant remove all of them from my life, and its her friend thats making my ex look at me this way, i Know how she feels and i also know that she is dissapointed in me, but i really tried, also do you guys think it will be a good idea to talk to her sister? just so i can tell her what happened and how i feel, maybe she will listen to her? what you guys think?
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PUNKEY
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Fri 4 Aug, 2017 03:04 pm
We all UNDERSTAND, like she probably does, but that doesn't mean that she ACCEPTS the behavior.
You showed a nasty side of your character. I'm betting it wasn't the first time, either.
She seems to have apathetic feelings about you. Like she does not care one way or another. No emotion. No reaction. That's the worst place for you to be with her.
Move on. If she begins to care again, she will contact you.
yeah she has no emotions left at all, i mean she is happy and stuff with her friends but not with me, even though we had good conversation last time i still dont want to push her too much, im also kinda confused why she ublocked me on spanchat, or maybe it was an accident i dont know and im not sure if i should ask her about that or not, i just want her to understand that her friend isnt doing her a good favor and she really isnt, and we had small fights before but it wasnt serious like this one
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izzythepush
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Sat 5 Aug, 2017 07:56 am
The loss of a relationship is like a death. You're in denial, you still think there's a chance you can get back together. You can't, it's over, move on. We've all been there, the longer you think you've got a chance the longer you delay moving on. You need to0 move on.