Would you be willing to date/marry an asexual?

@centrox,

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hightor wrote:

I don't believe I'd date/marry someone who is "sex-repulsed"

Me neither. I would see it as a considerable character flaw or personality disorder...

But is it it a character flaw or personality disorder if it is and always has been a part of the person? No. It is part and parcel of who the person is and always has been.

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...spoke at least one other language they had learned...

As opposed to what? A language that they were fluent in from day one, other
than that of their nurturers? Or a language which was gifted to them by an alien implant?

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...as any other deficiency or flaw such as tone deafness, dislike of poetry...

Again, one's sexuality is not a disorder, it is not a flaw. Neither is being tone deaf or lacking an interest in your brand of poetry. You don't have to have an emotional tie to these persons, but, they are human the same as you. Not having certain aspects to their being does not mean they don't have other qualities, some which may be wonderful, awe-inspiring even to you.

But, go ahead and dismiss large groups of the populace due to your own inherent and now obvious inadequacies and insecurities.

Further, would you really want a world where everyone was exactly like you? Sounds dammed boring, but, hey maybe that's how you ride.

Your words are frighteningly similar to those who have in the past and those who even now, view homosexuality as a flaw.

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@Sturgis,

Sturgis wrote:

Further, would you really want a world where everyone was exactly like you? Sounds dammed boring, but, hey maybe that's how you ride.

Your words are frighteningly similar to those who have in the past and those who even now, view homosexuality as a flaw.

I'm not talking about who I wouldn't vote for, or befriend, or support if they were discriminated against, I'm talking about who I might consider dating or marrying or cohabiting with. Sharing my life. If she announced she hated music, thought learning languages was a waste of time, supported Trump, and didn't care about sex (or any one of these), I'd say to myself "she's not for me".

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@centrox,

So you still refuse to discuss your use of 'personality disorder and flaw'?

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@Sturgis,

Sturgis wrote:

So you still refuse to discuss your use of 'personality disorder and flaw'?

I see 'sex-repulsed' as a flaw. I make no apology for that.

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@centrox,

You additionally claim tone deafness and lack of interest in poetry as flaws and disorders.

Again, people are made how they are made, this does not signify flaw, disorder or deficiency.

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@Sturgis,

Sturgis wrote:

You additionally claim tone deafness and lack of interest in poetry as flaws and disorders.

Again, people are made how they are made, this does not signify flaw, disorder or deficiency.

They are dreadful disorders. Dull people, psychopaths, people with narcissistic personality disorder, bores, killjoys and wet blankets are "made how they are made", and I wouldn't marry them. So sue me.

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@centrox,

Hmm. What are we talking about, sex repulsed?
I get it that some fair amount of people consider themselves as, are, non-sexual physically or mentally. My fast guess is that they are possibly bored or irritated when the topic comes up.

I figure some of the people who have been raped in some extraordinary awful way may be, on hearing about more such situations, even just ordinary ones, are repulsed.

Or perhaps some religious or psychological fear is part of the viewpoint.

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@ossobucotemp,

On the original question, no, re my dating or marrying, but being friends is possible.

As we get older, some body gadgets don't work as well as in the past, but that is a different question. Doesn't mean the person is asexual.

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Nop!

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@mtate01,

Well, everything depends from the human

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This question is pretty silly.

For the overwhelmingly majority of humans, dating and marriage involves sex as a very major component.

If you, yourself, were asexual you probably would rush to date or marry someone who shared your dismissal of sex, but anyone with a normal sex drive isn't going to date or marry someone without one...and if they do the relationship won't last very long.

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@Finn dAbuzz,

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...probably rush to date or marry...

More likely the person would opt for living on their own. At most they might consider sharing a home and expenses with another asexual individual with similar interests. The person could be the same gender or the opposite gender, their both being asexual would mean it didn't matter who it was as long as they got along. Except for societal pushing, they'd most likely see no reason for dating or marriage.

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@Sturgis,

Sturgis wrote:

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...probably rush to date or marry...

More likely the person would opt for living on their own. At most they might consider sharing a home and expenses with another asexual individual with similar interests. The person could be the same gender or the opposite gender, their both being asexual would mean it didn't matter who it was as long as they got along. Except for societal pushing, they'd most likely see no reason for dating or marriage.

Fair enough. An asexual mindset is foreign to me, but I imagine that even though they may not care about sex they appreciate companionship.

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@maxdancona,

The question is about marriage, I think. You have different relationships with different people but marriage I think is a specific relationship.

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@hawkeye10,

I don't think I can be happy with such a partner so I won't.

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