My GF of 8 months won't put her relationship status on Facebook

Why does it matter to you what her FB status is?

Isn't your real-life relationship more important than what she puts on FB?

Well, it (and she) sound pretty normal to me. Could be she doesn't consider any 'relationship status' to be a public matter.

Why does it matter? What do you mean real life? Most of these male admirers live in the same town we do. Many she's met at various parties here in LA, etc. They could easily message her and ask her out for drinks so we are not talking about virtual people. Did you know that, even as of 2011, 1/3 of all divorce filings referred to Facebook? The number is even higher today. It matters because every guy who sees here photos that she posts every day or so thinks she is single so they are encouraged to pursue her. Most women who are in a relationship typically post some pics of them with their BF and/or list their status as "in a relationship." If you put it out there on "social media" that you are single and not in a relationship men will pursue you. Many people have discussed this topic generally on other websites long before I posted my question: E.g., "She wants people to think she's single, or she wouldn't care. Lots of people say that it doesn't matter what people have and don't have on their facebook but in this day and age it's exactly the opposite. If she's that obsessed with fb she should definitely put 'in a relationship'." And "FB and other profiles *are* a reflection of who you are and if she's using FB to flirt with other guys, to feel more desirable then she's the one with the problem. It's about being consistent, having integrity, and valuing her real world relationship." Here's some more interesting data facts: Divorce attorneys agree that social media has increasingly played a part in marriage breakdowns. In 2010, 81 percent of divorce attorneys surveyed by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers said they’d seen an increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence in the five years prior. The attorneys said Facebook was the number one source for finding online evidence, with 66 percent admitting they’d found evidence by combing the site. Another survey showed that 1 in 7 people would consider divorcing their spouse due to questionable social media activity. Social media is just that....social.

Hello Roger. Not sure what you mean by a "public matter." She's posting dozens of her personal pictures on Facebook. If you know how facebook works, you can set it so only your "friends" can see your posts, which is what she does. So only a thousand or so of her "friends" (mostly men) can see her posts. Thus, this is not a "public" forum. Moreover, if you are in a "relationship" that would be the kind of thing you would share with your "friends." In addition, a lot of women say the list themselves as "in a relationship" specifically to avoid all the attention they get from men who pursue them via Facebook messages, etc.

A little more information: Sure, Facebook makes connecting with new and old friends around the world easier than ever — but it also makes it easier to disconnect from the person that matters most: your spouse.

Psychologist John Grohol, the CEO and founder of Psych Central, sees this happen all the time.

“Readily available communication on Facebook leads people to pursue temptation or engage in risky behaviors,” Grohol told The Huffington Post. “Facebook makes it easy to engage in less inhibited communication — which can lead to taking risks we wouldn’t ordinarily take in our everyday life.”

Maybe I should have said she considers relationship information to be private. That might have been clearer?

You asked if this sounded normal. It really sounds like you have a particular belief you are trying to sell to us. As I said (in answer) she sounds normal to me. Your position isn't about to change so I don't know why you bothered asking. Not that that is anything new to the internet.

Then you are not her boyfriend.

How do you mean?

Maybe you and she are not on the same page in regards to your "relationship". You guys also don't sound compatible. Why are you sticking with this girl exactly?

Apparently you are going to believe what you want to believe.

Sounds like it's time to break up and find a girlfriend who believes what you believe.