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Wed 21 Jun, 2017 09:05 am
I'm a girl and I'm not sure if I'm pan. The other day, my best friend (who is also a girl) told me she had feelings for me. I have had feelings for her for a bit but not that much-- more of a hypothetical thing. She wants to tell everybody, but I'm not sure if I really like her in that way. I want to go back to just being friends, but some part of me wants to be her girlfriend/more than pal/idk. She wants to tell everybody, but I'm not even sure if I want to do this. She and I have grown up together, and I don't want to destroy the strong and, well, pure bond that we've had for a long time. But on the other hand, I've never felt comfortable with dating (which is why I've never done it) because the person whom I date would probably not know me well. But my BFF and I have known each other since we were eight years old--- should I go for it or should I let her down?
You don't have to date her just because she said she likes you in that way, especially if you feel unsure.
@Hedy H,
Not only don't you have to date her but, even if you do, it doesn't have to be told to everyone under the sun.
@Hedy H,
Sounds like you simply aren't mentally or emotionally ready for a "dating" type of relationship. Just tell her that and continue the friendship. She may be put off by the rejection, but if she's a good friend then she'll understand.
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