Help, im confused about my marriage

I've been married for 10 years and i have 2 boys, my husband is 7 years older than me and im not even in my 30s yet, my problem is that i feel so alone and abandoned in this marriage that is driving me crazy, i guess one of the biggest problems is that me and my husband are the complete opposite from each other, he is a country boy and is pretty introverted, i'm more of a city girl and more extroverted. For years i've been telling him to do exciting things, go places, watch movies ecc and he make it sooo difficult by using any excuse such as being tired from work, having to do homework ecc, the problem is that i work too and i always want to spend time with him even if is once a week, some days he would get home from work, eat dinner, get on his phone and go straight to bed, i understand that because is during the week, but here comes the weekend and he get on his phone on the couch and don't even get the motivation to get out with the family or anything like that, if he is not on the phone he is watching football all day long and i was never into sports so is hard for me to keep him company, im always the one that have to make the first move and tell him we need to do something as a family, i feel so lonely im depressed and cry almost every day, what make it worse is that we don't know anybody where we live and don't have any friends to even talk to because we moved far away from family not too long ago due to our jobs, i always doubt he loves me because i think that if someone truly loves you they would want to spend time with you and do or experience new fun things, he insist that he loves me and that he can't imagine his life without me, that he would do anything to make this marriage work, that he would feel lost without me but im confused, he doesn't show it and keep making me feel guilty by saying nothing makes me happy, he would buy me gifts on my birthday, mothers day and expect me to be the happiest woman in the world but all i want is quality time,is that too much to ask? he does have things i admire, like he would take good care of me when im sick, when i had our kids he would bathe me and sleep with me at the hospital, I want to enjoy life with him while im young but it seems like it will never be possible, it seems like he is pretty content with the marriage the way it is because he is never complaining or sad but im always miserable because im not living the life i want, which is an exciting life with more adventure and time spent togheter, he uses the kids as an excuse which i understand to a certain extent because we cant leave them with anybody since we don't know anyone, but when we lived close to family and had only one child we still didn't do anything fun, it was the usual, work, eat, football, sleep...at the time i didnt feel as sad because i had friends around me and i would just grab some coffee with them or go to the movies to forget about marriage for a bit, but now its killing me because i dont have anybody else to hang out with, sex is ok, he always want to have it so i guess he is still attracted to me, but i am so hurt im never in the mood, we are also very different in our sex life, he is more basic and im more like a freak, from slapping, choking, tying ecc he doesnt really enjoy those things so i guess i just deal with it, i've been with him since i was a teenager and i would be devastated if we divorce, but im afraid one day i wont be able to take it anymore and have to end up leaving, i dont want to spend my 30s looking for happiness just like i did all my 20s....do i want too much? Do you think he loves me? Why does he act like this? I ask him to go to a marriage counselor but he never wants to because he think our marriage is fine, thats BS! Doesn't he see im always sad? Im becoming ill, from not seing my family for over 7 years(they live overseas) from thinking he doesnt love me, from not having a friend to talk to or spend some time togheter, im always crying, shaking because im too nervous and anxious, im drowining in this situation and my husband thinks everything its fine. By the way, im very sorry if i mispelled some words, english is not my first language but french and spanish are.