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Mon 29 May, 2017 08:53 am
Me and my boyfriend are 17years old.We used to fight for each other and here we are together 8months already.Iam very happy in our relationship and do not ask for anything better.I see us being too mature for our age and we potentially see a future together when we get older.The problem is , I can't keep thinking about other guys -crushes.Sometimes the feelings towards someone get so deep that I want to cheat wheather it's sex or a kiss,but I don't do it ,and maybe i would of if my boyfriend wasn't around.Its hard because I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because of cheating and I feel that unless I do as my body/heart wants I won't be happy.I do not know how to talk to him about this , he doesn't want an open relationship to a standard or anything because he is a very jealous type and things won't end well ,he doesn't need it anyway as he has everything he needs.But I just can't stop being attracted to others.Probably because I'm still young and this was my first relationship + that I'd count serious as well.I feel like I want to be free,try out 1 night stands ,have many experiences ,bad and good but not loose what I have which might be amazing for the future(boyfriend).
@Lera-B,
Break up - it's kinder and more respectful. And if he is as jealous a you say, you are more likely to be better off without him, anyway.
@jespah,
I mean yes it is indeed more respectful etc. it's all fun and that and then what about after -when I actually want a serious relationship that will last long ?i won't be able to go back to him.i understand I'm only 17 but I feel like this is the guy that I want to make a family with etc in the future .There will be no better , maybe in some way but everyone has flaws.I can be a loyal ,faithful partner but I'm just not sure if this is the right time ,it's too early ,I still want to make mistakes ,flirt with new guys but then at the same time want to stay with him.Is it bad that I want to look at other guys ?Shall I talk to my boyfriend and see with what kind of solution he will come up with?I just think that if I tell him , he will feel like he's not good enough or he could be doing something better...
@Lera-B,
You are seventeen, you'll likely go through many more relationships before finding that special person and even then there is no guarantee how long that'll last.
You'll be ready for something more permanent when you stop having all these fleeting feelings for other people. Until that happens enjoy meeting new people and experiencing new things. Just be careful and be safe!
@Lera-B,
Lera-B wrote: he is a very jealous type
reason enough to break things off
enjoy some fun casual relationships - and stay away from the jealous types
make sure your birth control is 200% sorted out and have fun
@tibbleinparadise,
That's what I'm thinking too , I'm too young I should still be able to live free and enjoy life but then what do I say to my boyfriend after them 8 months of our relationship or as you'd like to say 'progress' .I'm just concerned about finding something more permanent ,I mean it's 2017 ,there are many boys that just use girls , fuckboys etc.But thank you , you helped me heh
@ehBeth,
Why are you portraying jealous types as the bad ones ?i mean , they definitely care and do not want to share their chance and happiness with anyone else that's why they get jealous if there is someone else that is flirting for example .
@Lera-B,
Lera-B wrote:
Why are you portraying jealous types as the bad ones ?
jealousy in a permanent, adult relationship is to be avoided . it's not fun, it's not pleasant and in some cases it's a red flag for danger. it can be a very fine line to be in a relationship with a jealous person.
it's barely acceptable with adolescents. not at all with adults.
@jespah,
jespah pointed it out as well
jespah wrote: And if he is as jealous a you say, you are more likely to be better off without him, anyway.
@Lera-B,
My wife is super jealous, not something I really picked up on (or maybe just ignored?) before we got married, and believe me there is nothing positive about it. Jealousy is a complete lack of trust in your ability to function as an adult. Your friends, your actions, your whereabouts, all fall under constant scrutiny. You end up spending a great deal of time defending yourself while you are home, with your significant other, because you can't do anything else without an argument sparking.
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