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I got rejected by high school friend, should I fight for her and risk what and how, or drop it?

 
 
guyt10
 
Reply Sat 13 May, 2017 01:05 pm
First of all this is long, why? Because there are a lot of details which I find important for the decision, from when she texted me to what is beautiful about her.
This will help you understand what I feel and what are the obstacles that I face.
Even if you won't write an answer I thank you for reading.

Love biography:
Hello I'm a soldier and can't say much about my job but about myself​, I never had a relationship and always rejected others that hit on me due to not knowing them enough and from fear of having to try something never the less haven't tried to hit on anyone two, in my eyes there has to be a connection deeper that just sexual affections which is why now I only think about friends from high school who I share history with.
The only romantic experience I had was with a girl that had interaction with me while she had a boyfriend which left me powerless due to me trying to do the right thing, I ended up in love and broken, later she tried to hook me up with her friend which due to my love for her and ideals I of course rejected.
Since then and until I graduated I haven't tried anything due to being devastated and having lots of tests and lacking any opportunities, then I got recruited.
Being a soldier makes you long for a relationship and made me want to do something again since my heart breaking experience.

Actual problem:
In the past months' weekends I have constantly ran by a friend from high school which I always liked but never thought of a girlfriend.
She is really beautiful in my eyes, smart and creative.
While she is feminine she doesn't spend time putting make up and doing her hair, she actually donated a lot of her hair which is why she has short hair which all of this makes her more beautiful and amazing in my eyes, though she is not too confident and hangs around only girls... And she never had a boyfriend which shows about her inexperience and fear of dating.
We were in the same class in high school and learned the same profession which we continued in the army and when I'll finish training we'll get to work together sometimes.
Every time that we ran by each other naturally that's all we talked about and she seemed really eager for me to finish training and start work with her, even one time I got to see her while training in a different base and she was so happy to see me (it was like a romantic movie where the two lovers run towards each other no kidding) which was really nice and heart warming for me.
When I met her in a party two weeks ago we talked a bit (don't remember much) and had good chemistry but I didn't muster up the courage to do something which due the chemistry I still think that I could.
When she left I sent her a message that we should meet next weekend when I come home (which was two weeks) and she said that she thinks she can.
In the following weekend I was let to come home by surprise and met her in a premiere where we talked a lot and then sat next to each other, later she wanted to walk to the car together but our cars weren't in the same direction and I couldn't walk with her because I had to give someone a ride, I looked at her slowly disappearing with the crowd (she looked beautiful).
A couple of days later I sent her a message which I explained that I wasn't supposed to come home and asked her if she wanted to meet this weekend or the other like we planned and she preferred the original.
Later that week I asked her which day she wants to meet and I got no reply which made me wait eagerly for two days and made me wonder whether I should've called.
Then I sent another message which she answered nicely and said which day she preferred and that we'll talk a day before which then she didn't answer again. This time I decided that I wouldn't run after her and therefore we didn't date.
After I got over the rejection I still ask myself whether I should date her since I have nothing else to thing about.
On the one hand she is everything I like in a girl and we share a lot and even do the same things in the army.
On the other hand dating her might ruin what we have and being rejected makes me think less of her and wonder if she's​ even interested in me at all.

What should I do? Is she worth fighting for and risking what we have even though she rejected me?
And if so, what should I do from now on?
 
jespah
 
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Reply Sat 13 May, 2017 01:17 pm
@guyt10,
There is nothing to 'fight for'. She basically blew you off - because even if she had changed her mind, she could have had some common courtesy and told you she wasn't interested or only wanted to meet as a friend, etc.

As for the remainder of it, get to know other women. You do not have to have a five or ten year history with someone in order to date them. So expand your available, possible dating pool. You can know someone for a month and then decide you're attracted to them. There is nothing weird or wrong or rushed about that.

And when you insist on such a long history, it gives forth the impression that you are basically in avoidance mode.

BTW, pretty much everyone gets their heart broken at some time or another. You learn to deal. And you also don't write off every single similar person because of that bad experience.
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