What should I do?

Honesty is the best policy. I'm unclear about your status. Are you NOT a virgin? If you haven't had intercourse then your a virgin ( you were intimate but not been penetrated). Either way, There's nothing wrong with not being a virgin. but that's all relative to cultural norms.

I don't know many (in my culture in USA) that insist on someone be a virgin, but I recognize how other cultures have differences. You'll simply explain to anyone you're serious about what the facts are and deal with it accordingly.

Realistically, there's very few who might insist on such a status but perhaps you know your cultural norms much better than I do.

I wouldn't question your virginity but I might question the importance you or your culture places on it.

Well I was not penetrated. I am a virgin and this in India. So I would want to know how Indian men think?

but, the fact remains regardless of culture, you ARE still a virgin.

Yes I am still a virgin.So is that the only thing that matters? Or being intimate also does matter is my question...?Is it ok if I am a virgin and I was intimate?

Would you typically be in a position where you would need to fully disclose every aspect of your previous relationships? I'm admittedly unfamiliar with Indian cultural practices, but is this something that comes up with you meet somebody?

Perhaps you'd be best asking someone from Indian culture. We're very inclusive as a forum, but theres not too many people from So Asia that wander into our forum. What about an older friend or someone local that you trust?

Sorry I couldn't be of more help. Wishing for you the best.

Does it matter to you whether or not a guy you meet in the future is a virgin?

No it doesnt matter. Could you please share your gmail IDs. I wont be able to put the exact problem in the forum.Thanks!

If it doesn't matter to you whether a future romantic interest is a virgin or not, why do you think it would matter him whether or not you are?

Unfortunately in many other cultures it does matter - women don't have the same freedoms or equalities as men.

I think you really need to speak with someone you completely trust from your own cultural to be sure. I know we have many work colleagues from India (offices in India) and it does seem as if women are being more equal to men (not completely), but still probably depends where you live in India.

Hi,
Its not about this.Could you please share me your email ID so that I can explain you everything.Thanks!

I am a virgin and the only matter is about intimacy.Yes ,women do not hve equal rights ,but these days they are expected to be a bit more broad minded.

Could anyone please share their email IDs as there is some other stuff which I would want to discuss.Thanks

You can send personal messages on here just click Inbox in the upper right and you can send a message that way.

I don't know if most people would feel comfortable posting their personal emails on a public forum.

The message is too long.How do I send?

I have dropped a message to Linkat and Glenn.Could you please reply asap?

Where do you people belong to? Are these messages confidential?

Yes, they are confidential.

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I haven't looked at what a newbie sees when clicking on a2k lately, but I think there were choices to make that could be helpful. Look around.

@Linkat, @Glenn,
I have sent personal message to you.Could you please reply?
Thanks,