Will you go partying on the day your partner had her first operation?

It's my opinion too. You don't need this jerk in your life.

I wouldn't say morally wrong but definately inconsiderate.

Next time he wants sex say okay you can but I'm going to a party.

Definitely lacking in tact and thoughtfulness. I'd just dump him, tell him you have realized that you need somebody more mature and ready to participate in a relationship.

I think it was certainly inconsiderate. And his comment about how he would go out partying even after you would give birth is even more inconsiderate and down right disgusting.

I think it is time to find a new boyfriend. This one is not ready for a relationship.

@centrox, Krumplem tibbleinparadise, CoastalRat

Thank you for your reply and opinions, and I'm relieved to know you agreed with me.
It helps me a lot!!

Hi guys,
I need your help, do you think there is any way to explain him why it is inconsiderate?
I want him to understand it.

He said it is normal among his friends, and there is nothing he can do staying at home anyway.

Tell him the truth, which is that he isn't being the least bit supportive. You might go so far as to tell him that he really doesn't seem to be the man you thought he was.

This guy is showing you his character and his values. Be aware. It doesnt change.

How old is he? Are we talking late teenager? Early twenty something? If so, you're looking at someone with a low/slow developing emotional intelligence. You could give him a break but he might be slow to the uptake.

If we're talking late 20s or older? He's possibly a lost cause. Try and explain it to him. Depending on how understanding he is at that point? Determine if the relationship is worth saving.

He lacks some of the basic tools a person needs to be successful in a relationship. I, personally, would not take it upon myself to teach my partner how to be a partner. There are a lot of guys out there. Leave this one so he can grow up and find yourself one that understands the role of a partner in a relationship.

"He said, he would go partying on the day after I gave a birth."

I don't understand this sentence. Is giving birth the operation you are talking about?

In any case, he seems like a lot of guys that don't know what to do when visiting someone in the hospital. A mature person sucks it up and considers the ill person first. The fact that he doesn't know what to do with himself reveals that he really has no clue how to be a partner or homeowner or man with other interests besides partying.

He is a jerk, plain and simple.

Hi guys,

Sorry for not responding, and thank you for your opinions.
I had to think it over his arguments - it's only shoulder operation, and there is no difference in caring about me between staying at home alone and drinking with his friends till morning.
I think he has a good point...

But it was a serious operation that I mustn't move the shoulder for 6weeks staying at home, the rehabilitation takes about 8months.
And it was my first operation in my life, feeling insecure, especially the day I had the operation.

So I wanted his support, staying with me at hospital as long as he could, and be there for me but not partying.

Well... I don't know anymore, if I'm just being childish.
Once more, thank you guys!!

You are not being childish. He is.

It isn't unreasonable to ask your significant other for support. Do you "need" the support (are you being childish)? You are the one that gets to decide if you want or need support in a particular situation. If he declines to offer support when you ask for it, expect this behavior to continue. The simple answer is he probably just doesn't really care what your wants or needs are, or he thinks he's better capable to assess YOUR wants or needs.