@PUNKEY,
I agree this won't be the first shocking thing.
I guess the question is when do you step in - now before it becomes an answer - but then I worry she will hide things better from me.
Right now she has only seen this boy twice - both times with groups of other friends. He doesn't go to her school so fortunately she will hardly ever see him any way. And now (since I know how he is and she with him) I will prevent it any way I can.
She is going to have surgery next week so in any case she won't be going any where for a while. I will not have this boy in my house now. And it seems the couple of times they have tried to get together he is backed out ---
I am still torn - also if I tell my husband he will flip out and it will be WWIII in the house. He acts first and thinks later - he is a lot like her all emotion whereas I stop and think things out first. I do not like to keep things from him but I know it will be very difficult for me to calm him where he would be able to think reasonably.
I hate to say it my other daughter is so much easier - she is so conservative - if she knew about this there would be a fight among the two - I know she would be upset at this behavior so she can't possibly know.