What Should I do with My Mother's Cremated Remains?

That's just too personal for me to know. But if it were me, I would pick something she liked in nature. A certain stream, perhaps. Or a former home's garden. And mix it in there.

When my wife died I had some of her ashes turned into diamonds as a permanent keepsake. It's not cheap though, and took a big chunk of life insurance money, and it's what she wanted. The rest I put in a large pot with a Jasmine plant, which is currently in the back garden.

As has been said, it's a very personal decision, and not one a stranger can make for you. Is there somewhere special to your mum where you scatter her ashes, or would she want to be buried under a particular shrub or tree and have part of her come back as that?

Think about what she liked, where she was happy, and try to let that inform your decision.

What do you want to do?

I do wonder what your want.

A lot of us have preferences, if we had a chance to say so.

It is a very difficult question to answer, as it is a very personal decision you have to take.
Where I live we have to give a person the last place to rest. We cannot leave the urn at home nor in our garden. We have to choose between a cemetry or ocean very seldom scattered.
For many, whithout children or the children living far away - an anonymous grave for urns is a good choise. It is often a very lovely area on the cementry.
If there already is a family plot - that is good solution.
Your mother felt unhappy in the apartment, so maybe you would like her to be in a place where both of you can find peace.
The graves of the ones I have loved are far away. I am pleased to know where they are and the choise was theirs. It is so good to have been able to talk about before it happens.
The good memories are with me whereever I am.
My father was a widower for 40 years. He seldom went to the grave, but every saturday he bought a nice bouquet of flowers and put by her picture.

In the US today, many folks are casting the ashes of their loved ones into the ocean. I for one, would never do that. I think the ashes should be placed in a cemetery within a suitable urn and the urn then situated in soil.

There are many beautiful burial plots in the US, but some of them are very costly . However, most are very well maintained.

Did your mother belong to a specific religion? If she did,this may influence, where her remains should be buried.

There we go again, there is no denying this kind of question is a prevalent American trait more than in any other nation on Earth...Why the hell do ppl ask questions to which no one else but themselves are qualified to answer? Explain me in slow mo Edgar, please! Do Murikans have extreme need of social reassurance? Are ya guys afraid of breaking the norm or status quo? Are you afraid of being alone? What the heck is it? Fracking cultural mystery for me...

PS - Yes in prejudice I am statistically assuming this is an American citizen without being sure. Please correct me if not.

You are a girl with"balls"!
Honest best answer the OP deserves.

Are you saying Americans cannot decide what to do with a loved one's ashes, based on a single post? The persons I know that received ashes of a loved one had no hesitation deciding what to do with them.

So you know how people in every other nation on Earth react when it comes to death.
I´ll tell you that it is not only in USA that people have difficulties talking about death - it is almost everywhere in our modern society.
That is why people have to come toa forum to ask questions, which really only they themselves can answer. But by asking, they start to think and feel and come to a conclusion.
It is sad but as a matter a fact is that people cross the street to avoid talking to
someone who just lost a loved one.

Sorry Saab something was miss in context as this comes from another topic debated in another thread...Its not bout Death. Rather its about ppl asking questions that only themselves are qualified to answer no matter the topic. A2K is full of them. And while this is indeed common all round the world in America it subjectively seems to me it is more prevalent...Maybe is just cause Murikans are more frequent around...I may be biased. I am just not afraid of stating how I am perceiving the problem from my pov.

I think people ask all kind of questions over internet whatever a forum or facebook because they lack a social network in real life.
We do not any more live in a close relation with family and relatives and the smart phone or mobil phone is where the social network is.
When my husbond passed away we sent out printed cards to friends and relatives spread over eight countries. Nothing via e-mail or facebook.
Two nephews told everyone they know over facebook " my uncle passed away...." Do you think I got a card or even an e-mail ?" No, I did not.
I am not in facebook, so why bother... Very polite men!
This is an American forum so there has to be more Americans than any other
nation.

And there we go..there are 2 Americas....one took us to the Moon and the other to Trump...anyway nevermind me I just get really sensitive when I see these questions all over, they annoy the hell out of my patience.

Common Edgar you are one of the smartest politest around and that was what you took from what I said ??? Its not the thread topic but the general questions that only people themselves can answer, why do they ask questions none other can answer ? Why ??? I need to understand the behaviour...it annoys me beyond words...

- Should I sleep on the couch or in a proper bed ppl ?
- I am confused should I dump someone who insulted me ?
- Hya, everyone says orange is the colour for this year fashion I don't really like orange should I use it anyway ?

....sheeeesh, for fracks sake, just stop it !!!

What is bloody wrong with you, have you not heard of live and let live?

Yeah, I was off. I sometimes do humor threads about this kind of post.

I've observed that you think 300,000 (more, actually) US citizens are all fulfilling some identical pattern. You are wrong. I annoy even myself for telling you this for something like the third or fourth time, but you fail to listen.

Also, the Murikans schtick is repetitively obnoxious.

I would never consider making fun of every person from Portugal, much less doing it repeatedly.

1 - Yes I do dislike a good chunk of the American population and I am in major company around the world. Texas for instance, could go back from where it belong or for that mater Virginia and the likes...
2 - Yes I love the "second" America who has done stuff no one dared even dream before. So there is no bias.
3 - I have no problem you use some sarcasm or humor with Portuguese. I do it myself all the time. It shows "grandeur" of spirit, sense of humor, being able to laugh about our own cultural shortcomings...don't teach me etiquette. I know probably better than you what is adequate.
4 - Yes in the last couple of days I have been making a point against status quo pseudo-correctness and cheap moralism on the fly. The web is full of it.
5 - Yes I firmly believe the best way to help people that are dumb or impaired is through conditioning since intelligent dialogue has proven statistically time and again to fail. Some people need shaming to listen.
6- Last not least I don't need anyone's help to be a good guy. I know I am and that suffices. No need for input.

Keep having a nice day.