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Reply Wed 15 Feb, 2017 05:35 pm
Hi everyone,

I've been in a relation with my ex boy friend. we have two boys together. we broke up 5 months ago because the relationship before was not a relationship. we broke up at least 10 times. through out the five months i met and fell in love with an amazing guy. This person i can feel that he is my other half. He's perfect . He is some one i am in love with and we want to move to marriage. the problem is the ex has the kids and hes making ultimatum either leave the kids with him to move forward with the one i love. basically pick the kids or the new relationship. Right now there is absolutely no feelings with the ex. He loves me very much but there is no feelings. He has changed alot since we broke up. I really care about the kids happiness to stay and take care of them as a family but the love is not there. I am so in love with the person i'm with now. What do i do?
 
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Reply Wed 15 Feb, 2017 05:52 pm
@rubyskye910,
You broke up five months ago with the father of your children and have started a new relationship that you believe will lead to marriage.

I think it sounds like you need to put the brakes on everything.

Take a time out and get to know yourself better.

No dating. No reconciliation.

Focus on work, your children and yourself.

If the new guy is as great as you believe, he'll still be there after you've taken a good time out.

I suggest at least 8 - 12 months on your own. No dating. Just you, your job and time with your kids. Take some night courses. Upgrade your skills. Decorate your house/apartment. Figure out what you will be doing with your future - with or without a life partner.

Seriously. Cool all of it down.
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