Help Me

I'm a 14 year old girl living in Oregon. I'm struggling to try and live at my dads house. I am emotionally abused at my mothers house and treated like a lesser person. My mother constantly tells me "you need to eat less", "your ripping the family apart", "your not aloud to say I Love You in this house unless you mean it" she always discusses how my father doesn't pay the child support (when he had to leave his job because he got back surgery and he can't work construction anymore, it hurts him to the point of tears). And I'm called names like "whore" and other things by my mom. My mother thinks I have a manipulation problem a lying problem and a stealing problem. She thinks I'm abusive, I think she's a hypocrite and she needs help. My mom seems to think everything is an argument, I used to self harm really bad Due to my mothers actions. And my mother decided to tell my father it was his fault that I did this and I did it at his house because I hate him.mwhich is all a lie. I have my own room but I used to not have a door, I now have a door but do not have a door knob therefore there is a large hole in my door where my younger siblings think it is appropriate to spy on me while dressing. The walls are so thin in my house I can hear my mom and stepdad having sex, and I hate it. My mother insists to my father in several texts that I listen to them have sex and that I like it. Which is a lie. I have food but I eat the same amount as a 4rth grader due to my mothers "portion control" I have a roof over my head but it leaks I have a floor under my feet but the basement floods in the winter. I have to have a space heater in my room along with the fireplace in the living room along with 2 comforters because I am so cold. If you need t know anything else just ask. What can I do to live at my dads? I'm so desperate to be happy please help.