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Tue 7 Feb, 2017 09:47 am
In our 16 yrs of marriage my wife has not really been into sex. In the last number of months she has stop taking birth control and started a testo cream. Now she wants sex a lot, while I am happy with this change she now also wants to experiment with other women.
I feel hurt and inadequate with her new wants. While she professes her love for me and says she wants me to be happy, she also has arranged three "dates" with women she has contacted through dating apps, telling me only after the fact.
We have discussed this new want of her's and she states she has this new desire for sex and want to experiment before her desire for sex at this level disappears.
I am not into sharing my wife or our bedroom nor a watching position. So what do I do now. As she is meeting these new women I know nothing about????
@ThomasT77,
Go to couples counseling and hash this out. If she will not go, then at least go to counseling alone, in order to figure out what you want to do.
And get yourself tested for STDs.
@jespah,
J,
We have done the counseling in the past and it did little. When we talked about this issue, even through I know I am rite she still made me feel like an ass.
O the power of women.
@ThomasT77,
Counselling is not a one-time/one-situation/one-counsellor thing.
Be open-minded and find a counsellor that you are comfortable working with. Put the time in. Do the work.
Be prepared to consider an end to your marriage as being the best result for you and your wife. Counselling can help you work through that.
@ehBeth,
E,
I know counseling takes work. We have been to a few in the past. We ultimately fixed the problems between us our selves.
The thought of leaving her is painful no matter how I approach it.
What do you think of letting her work through this in the way she wants, if it were a short time endeavor?
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