I hate my husband's new best friend!!

Well your husband wants you, he comes home to you. If he wanted her he would be with her. You have nothing to worry about. Its a friendship he needs and it makes him happy. You have to put your ego a way even though it's hard because you want that sort of interaction with him.

You have options. Get a male friend that suits you where your husband doesn't fulfill you so you can be even. You hang out with him when she hangs out with your husband. If he gets jealous you can then compromise equally.

Or you can learn to be more like her but once again this is not dimple to do and it can be Turing to act in ways you don't normally.

Happiness is difficult to come by so sometimes it's better to allow or help others become happy rather than take it a way. I know you are not happy that you have to be the one who bends on this but if you can strengthen your resolve it will pay off in the long run.

Find a way that works for you where you can be fine with it and try not to reflect on the negative. That will only break you down. Remind yourself that your husband comes home to you. The more positive ways you can look at it the less it will bother you.

Handsome is as handsome does. If he had any tact or sensitivity he would not let a friendship with a female get to the nicknames and "love" stage. I hear alarm bells. You don't have to put your marriage first, especially if you are expected to keep silent for its sake. Best friend my ass.

Wouldn't be surprised if her ass is involved somehow...