Wife is Disgusted by me. Any Advice?

A little context before I put my problem out there. My wife and I got married young (I was 21 she was 22 in 2012) This year we will be married 5 years. No kids yet. Like every other married couple, we have had our up’s and down’s. Our personalities are a bit different from each other. She is extroverted and I am introverted to a point. Last September, my wife got her dream job which requires her to be away from home most of the time (Leaves the house at 6 am and doesn’t get home till 5…usually). She is a theater teacher so during rehearsal season, she may not get home till 7. She also likes to hang out with her friends during the week and on weekend as well. So most nights during the week, I won’t see her till 10 or 11 and on weekends she will leave the house to hang out with her friends around 11am and won’t return until 9 or 10 that evening. She is also in grad school but she only has an online class once a week.

My schedule consist of work 7am to 4pm Monday through friday and then Monday, Tuesday, and thursday evenings I work at a local restaurant from 5:30 to 10 just to make extra cash to pay off debt faster (Dave Ramsey Method). I have been working full time job for 5 years and part time job for 3 so nothing new there. On the evenings I am off or the weekend I usually spend cleaning the entire house because she doesn’t have time for it and frankly hates cleaning unless someone is coming over she wants to impress.

Recently she started become SUPER distant to the point where she is never home when I am and would rather choose spending time with her friends or naps over spending time with me even for an hour. I asked her if anything was wrong and she started getting defensive and told me that is wasn’t anything I could fix. (Advice to new wives, don’t EVER say this to your husband because it will kill his confidence.) This morning, she told me that she is disgusted by me and doesn’t want to even be around me. She also used the fact that I stay home most of the time as a reason why she goes out but the only reason I do stay home is because when I work late, the next evening I am home there will be dirty cloths and dirty dishes everywhere and it takes me hours to get them all clean. She says it is a phase because a few of her married friends have gone through it but I am not sure. Has anyone else been through something like this?

How things are currently:
Sex – once every 3 to 4 weeks. Last time we did, she just did it so I wouldn’t ask questions and yes I always make sure orgasms first.
Chores – I do all the chores around the house (no that is not me exaggerating. It took her 4 weeks to do something small I asked her to do which she never got around to anyway.)
Date Nights – 2 times a month but she is always attached to phone talking to friends during those times anyway.
Romance – Non-existent
Finances – They are good so no financial stran
Kids – None

My love language is touch so not even talking to my wife for numerous days at a time is REALLY taking a toll.