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Should BF's ex be friends with his family

 
 
roxyram
 
Reply Mon 16 Jan, 2017 05:17 am
I do not right from wrong with this feeling.

My boyfriend and I, together for almost 4 years now and living together for about 3. Besides me he has only had one other serious relationship a few years back. He has told me that after breaking up, she confessed her undying love for him and tried to work things out but he wasn't interested in a relationship at the time.

Somehow his ex started working at the same office as his sister, and now it seems these 2 are really good friends. His sister told him, maybe a year ago that his ex told her she is still inlove with him and he is the only man for her etc. he told me this and it just made me uncomfortable.

His sister and I get along, however it's probably more tolerating each other for his sake. I just feel uncomfortable by their friendship. Am I over reacting or is this just a weird relationship? I mean I would never want my ex to be friends with any of my siblings?
 
ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 16 Jan, 2017 08:58 am
@roxyram,
Your boyfriend's family can be friends with whoever they like.

Who they are friends with is truly none of your business.

What I would object to is them telling your boyfriend about their ex's feelings. That is straight-out gossip. Hopefully your boyfriend told his sister that he isn't interested in hearing gossip like that.

I also don't understand why your boyfriend passed on the gossip. That was unkind and not necessary.

In the scenario you describe, my problem would be with your boyfriend, not with his sister or ex. He is the only one in a relationship with you.

He chose you, which is great. He passes on gossip, which is not great.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Mon 16 Jan, 2017 10:15 am
We don't know your BF's intention about telling you that.

Was it with remorse, disgust, wonderment or humor?

This girl is in your BF's sister's life. It doesn't sound like it will spread any further.

Don't give any power away by reacting to this girl's presence. She's a nobody now. Don't make her a somebody.
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