Dating etiquette amid improperly aligned politics

After a self-imposed two year hiatus from dating, I decided to get out with some guy. It took a great deal of self/determination and self-flagelation, but by god, there I was at the steak house like a normal person.

I liked the way he looked, he was intelligent. I like a big man with big biceps, and all these things seemed to be promising, but I noticed there was no visceral attraction. I thought it might be because I hadn't quite completely dispatched feelings for the last guy, but it'd been two years, and I refused to be a party to another moment waiting on that to happen. Sometimes you have to get under somebody to get over somebody... So, I was working on this Plan B.

But I had to have some kind of trust, or resonance, or meaningful connection. He made some judgements remark about people with tattoos, and I winced inwardly. Is this who this guy is? My daughter has a beautiful sleeve tattoo, and I felt like he threw a cold blanket on me when he said it. So, although I continued to engage in conversation and tried to find ameliorating insights into who he was, traditional judgmental comments peppered his dialogue, and I was turned off. No second date, I decided.

He texted immediately after the date. I didn't have time to get home. He was very sweet, asking to see me again.

So, I second-guess myself and think I should be grateful someone with his better attributes was excited about middle aged, gravity-impaired me. So I go. We text uproariously, enjoy talking, but there's that barrier still.

When he starts talking sexy, it's a big turn off, so I don't want to feel like a tease, but I'm definitely not feeling it, so I tell him I need some kind of connection to continue. I was completely honest and tried to lead the conversation to the logical conclusion that we weren't right for a romantic relationship.

So, he says let's take sex off the table for a while and get to know each other. I was VERY impressed and thought this might work. Renewed hope!

More fun texting, sending fun pictures- this is PROMISING!

UNTIL he calls my attention to an argument he's having on his Facebook page. It is a patronizing screed about There's No Free Lunch / condescending story about a local black man who 'pulled himself up by the bootstraps' and made it without hand outs. Insinuating that everyone who accepts government assistance is a deadbeat.

Killed it for me.

I was polite, but told him we just weren't right for each other and I enjoyed getting to know him.

That would be a great ending for me, but last night he texted (I know after a sleeping pill and scotch) that I was a 'bad person' who 'played with people's emotions.'

I took a look on his Facebook page to get clues, and he had that awful Bob and Sally meme about being able to be friends despite conflicting political views. He commented that if Sally can't be friends because of her politics, she's a bitch.

Hmmm.

So I'm feeling unfairly maligned. Would you defend yourself by text and block him? Block him with no defense? I'm trying to put myself in his position. I know his nighttime routine, so it was the equivalent of a drunk dial.

My goals are conflicting.

I want justice.
I don't want to devolve into a worse exchange.
I would like to close it out with positive feelings and understanding.
I'm pissed and want to defend myself.
I definitely want to protect myself from repeats of this unprovoked aggression.

What would you do?