married vs non-married child support

In the US . . .

"Alimony" - or spousal support - is what is given to the spouse who needs some kind of financial support after a breakup. I just heard about a guy who left his wife and four kids. He pays $1500 a month for child support AND $500 a month spousal support because the kids were are all under age 9, the youngest age 3, and she must stay home with them. He must do this spousal support for 3 years until she can get back to work.

Another guy I know paid Alimony to his wife of 25 years when he left her. She had never worked; there were no kids. Her role was to host parties and be a partner to him in the public eye. He was very successful and much was due to her. For 10 years he paid her $70,000 a year, new car every year and had to pay for the condo (housing) for her.

You don't want to get married, so think about all this before you bring a child into the world with a person you see as a business partner. In any case, you will need to provide support for the child, based on your income.

I am not willing to give my ex-partner the money she needs to grow up my kid away from me. That's not a choice you have. If she wants to take the child out of your country, she will need to petition the court.

I recommend a vasectomy asap.

In which country or state?

BTW, seriously, you are looking to starve your own child if you don't get custody. Because that's what can happen when people don't support their offspring. Most American courts will not let the other parent sign their rights away like that - or the child's rights, for that matter. E. g. if the other parent is found to be a better fit for the child, the court will award custody. And they will still want you to pay up. Because your child will need shoes no matter who he or she lives with.