My relationship of 4 years

Sex is very important for most of us, and in most relationships couples have sex at least one or two times a week. I think it is completely reasonable for you to be frustrated. I would not stay in a relationship that did not include regular good sex... what's the point. If you aren't having sex regularly, why not just be friends?

There are asexual people who don't like sex. And I understand that they can form meaningful intimate bonds that don't involve sex. There is not problem with that... as long as both people are ok with it. But that isn't for most people. If you have a normal sex drive, being in a asexual relationship would be incredibly frustrating.

If this were me, I would let my girlfriend know very clearly that regular sex is very important to me. I would talk to her about whether things can change (and change quickly).

If the answer is no. I would end the relationship and find a partner who enjoys and want sex as much as I do. Having to beg for sex is a very sad place to be.

Yes, sex isn't everything. An intimate relationship should absolutely be about caring, and emotional support and friendship and all the other things that make human relationships.

But sex is important. If you are not having your sexual needs met in a four year relationship, it is time to move on and find someone who will make you happy.

Four years and six times?

And she thinks it's messy and hasn't been interested?

This is not going to change - so decide if thats the future you want.

I completely understand but is their a way I can try to get her into it any tips?

Thank you for your advice I really took it into mind, but I love this girl and you're correct my sexual needs haven't been met but I do love this girl apart of me loves her so much but another part isn't satisfied we sex and that's the problem I'm facing. Is there a way I can try get her into the mood and tips tricks?

There are no tricks. Especially after 4 years, it is what it is. The only thing that works communication. You should ask her what she needs. I suspect the answer is that she isn't interested in sex. If she wants to work to fix the problem with you, then you have a chance. But, it doesn't sound like she is interested in doing this.

You can love someone and still break up with them. If the problem is that you want sex and she doesn't, it seem to me that this is one of those situations where you can continue being friends (if this is what she wants).

But, you have to accept the possibility that this relationship isn't meant to be. If you need regular sex, and she has no desire for sex, then the fact is that you aren't right for each other.

It is difficult. It is sad. But the right thing to do is to find someone you can love who meets your needs.

Role up,
Do understand that this woman's sex drive is very low for who knows why.

Low libido. It could be physical or psychological.

Was she ALWAYS like this? How was it at the beginning 4 years ago?

Well at first it was just foreplay she liked it for awhile then she wasn't interested in it no more than when we had sex the first time it was horrible it felt like she was doing it just to make me happy I hated it, and it still goes on till this day sex is still horrible I know it's not me I used to think that but I realised that it's her and I don't know what to do I'm stuck and it's a really hard choice to make