Does a parent death end a newly love relationship?

My advice is to give your boyfriend some emotional space to deal with his grief.

Your relationship is on hold, the best thing you can do is accept this and be patient. Understand that this is a pretty new relationship and right now the relationship is not the most important thing in his life.

It is good you offered support, and I think that offering to go with him was the right thing to do. Accepting that he said "no" and understanding is also the right thing to do. I wouldn't demand anything of him, but you might want to send him an "I am thinking of you and feel sorry" message (without expecting anything in return). I would appreciate this.

After some time you and he will have time to reconnect. There are no guarantees in any relationship. He certainly may come back wanting to grow your relationship again. Your best bet is to be understanding and patient and let him have space to deal with this.

His father DIED last night, and all you can think about is this petty shyte?

Good thing he didn't find out he has terminal cancer yesterday, you'd be insecure wondering if he's thinking how this is going to effect you.

Geez Chai. Do you have to be so mean?

Thank you!

You are so mean! He left and his ex wife is going too. Do you understand? You can call me selfish but we are all human and we are all the same.
Btw all I can think about is him and I wish I was there to support him!
Is it normal for his ex to go there? Maybe I am wrong. Thats why I asked for advice.

This is not "mean" (although I suspect you're joking)

This is gobsmacked that someone's father freaking died, apparently unexpectedly, and this self centered person thinks the boyrlfriend is going to use this golden opportunity to hook up with an ex wife.

She should be completely ashamed of herself and her complete lack of sympathy and empathy for someone who is grieving.

To the OP, I seldom get to see such complete disregard for not just another person, but his entire family.

You are so self centered you can't even imagine this former spouse is going to pay her respects and this has nothing to do with the boyfriend. Is it beyond you that she could have sorrow for this mans death, and that they may have had positive feelings for each other, or the deseased spouse or other family members?

You are a foolish foolish girl, and I hope to God you are not considering confronting this boyfriend with this crap during such a tragic, stressful and sad time.

No Chai, I wasn't joking. And I think it is you who are showing a lack of empathy.

She is writing to talk about her own feelings of grief about a relationship she cares about. And, she is asking for help in dealing with them. Her own feelings are understandable. There is nothing wrong with her wanting to discuss them.

This doesn't take away from the greater grief that her boyfriend is feeling. Your point is obvious, but it also has nothing to do with the thread. This poster can do both... feel sorry for her boyfriend's grief and feel her own emotions.

Feeling empathy doesn't mean you have to shut off your own emotions. Especially in this case, there isn't really anything she can do to support her boyfriend. She is just left with her own emotions having to just wait. This is the right thing for her to do, and I am certainly not saying the boyfriend is doing anything wrong. It is just one of the difficult situations that life throws at us some times.

She says nothing about "confronting" her boyfriend. Rather she is ask how she can help supporting and deal with the fact that she values the relationship which was already going through a rough spot.

I think she is in a difficult situation that wasn't her making where all she can really do is wait. That is a difficult place to be.

She's dated the guy 8 weeks. I said I hope to God she doesn't confront him. That's what I said, not her.

I'm not going to back and forth with you, as I suspect your just looking for some ridiculous argument.

And so what if I'm mean? None of your business. This silly young girl needs to think about what's important right now, and it's not worrying over someone she's been dating for 2 months. Frankly, I'm not surprised he told her it's not necessary for her to go.

Your BF Will be changed. Give him some time to sort all of this out.
In the meantime bake some cookies, take a class, work at a shelter or do something for someone else. You seem too much involved in yourself.