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Sat 3 Dec, 2016 04:47 pm
I have been married 12 years to a very controlling man. It's not always bad but the majority of the time is. For example. If I am going to my son's girlfriends house, to hang out with her Mom, her Dad can't be there. My husband has a friend (for about 5 years), that I have known all my life. Me and our mutual friend started talking, because he knows the way my husband treats me. Well we got emotionally involved and now its sexual also. A couple of weeks before me and the friend started talking, I decided I may want a divorce, but I was afraid of the whole process. My husband says he will leave (not knowing about the affair). but I feel so sorry for him. I don't know why, because he has treated me so bad in the past. He has apologized and trying to be better, but I feel it's too late. I have been hurt so bad. There are no children involved, but just don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.
@dixieskye,
My basic rule is that you should finish with one relationship before you start a new one. Otherwise you risk going from one bad relationship to another without any time to grow as a person in between. There is always the risk that you are only attracted to the new lover because you want to get away from your husband... this is not a very good basis for a healthy relationship.
My advice is ditch the husband and ditch the lover. Take a little time to heal and grow as a person independently. Then, when you are ready, try a new relationship on your own terms.
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