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Mon 28 Nov, 2016 09:22 am
Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration, after I left for the night. anyways she had a threesome with one of my best friends and my younger brother and lost her virginity as well. (they did it about four times that night), and I didn't even know about it till yesterday. I talked to my brother and I asked him when were you guys gonna tell me this and he said that I wasn't supposed to find out. she waited a whole weekend to tell me about this because at that time she wanted to have a threesome with me and another guy and I kept saying NO, so she went off and did her own thing, I try to forget it but it wont go away especially since I HAVENT EVEN HAD SEX, WITH HER YET she says she regrets ever doing and she was just experimenting. I'm just wondering what can help me get over this? I also told her that if she ever cheated on me again that it's over.
I think the part that pisses me off is the fact she cheated AND lost her VIRGINITY in the process and that it was on her 18th Birthday and earlief this year on valentine's Day. As her boyfriend I just feel like I got robbed of so much, like a milestone, or I had my special moment (s) snatched from me.
@Mississippisfinest98,
Mississippisfinest98 wrote:
Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration
I think the part that pisses me off is the fact she cheated AND lost her VIRGINITY in the process and that it was on her 18th Birthday and earlief this year on valentine's Day.
Valentines Day was not this past Saturday. It was over nine months ago.
Lost her virginity? she didn't misplace it. It's not a hood ornament or status symbol.
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So what are you going to do about your brother and one of your best friends (really? that's a friend?) having sex with your girlfriend? Those guys sure don't respect you.
@Mississippisfinest98,
Mississippisfinest98 wrote:I also told her that if she ever cheated on me again that it's over.
what did you say to your brother and friend about how they disrespected you?
@ehBeth,
*Sigh* Valentines Day was the OTHER time when she cheated.
@ehBeth,
I got into a fight with my friend ended up breaking his nose and my brother I cut contact with them both.
@Mississippisfinest98,
Mississippisfinest98 wrote:
Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration, after I left for the night.
I didn't even know about it till yesterday.
yesterday was Sunday
this apparently happened late Saturday night
how much earlier was someone going to tell you ?
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yeah I'm picking at you, but your OP doesn't make a lot of sense
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What has your girlfriend said about how things could be different in the future with you so she's less interested in experimenting with other people?
She hadn't had sex with you (or anyone else up to that night), she chose a threesome with your friend and your brother, believe me, she ISN'T your "girlfriend". She's a bad-news silly girl you happen to have been hanging around with. Dump her and quit busting noses over her. She isn't worth it.
@ehBeth,
She didn't say anything she just said that she was just "experimenting"
And could you stop nit-picking at the times please?? I was kind of upset of you can understand.
That's not what's important geez!!!
Some "experiments" can blow up in your face. I hope she was wearing safety goggles (or rather, the guys). Maybe she has been in the lab more often than she lets on. Run. Run a mile.
@Mississippisfinest98,
Your girlfriend is 18 - you're presumably about the same age. You need to talk to each other about how you want your relationship to be. You're both old enough to have a serious discussion about this.
Pick a quiet time - have some tea/coffee - and talk about how both of you want the relationship to be. Neither of you should assume you know what the other wants - or that the other knows what you want.
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Fighting with your friend? No contact with your brother? neither of those things make sense. You have to talk to them.
You want adult responses - you need to behave as an adult as well.
Wow. Well let me start off by saying eBeth is a feminist. Your brother and your friend do not have an agreement with you not to have sex with other people, your girlfriend does. The truth is that girls a freak and doesn't deserve to be any body's number one, she is what is commonly referred to as a "slut".
You being in the relationship still tells me you are the soft squishy type (I am too, no shame), it benefits her more to walk all over you than to actually sleep with you if she DOES sleep with you she obviously has no moral objections to slutting it up with other people still.
My advice, break it off, do not get back together ever. If you stay friends cool, just don't give her a damn thing. WHEN she starts sucking your dick you can keep it happening by saying your thinking about getting back together. Just make sure you are lying when you say it.
@tony5732,
If your still haven't got laid before don't even bother with that last part. Don't waste your first time on that cum dumpster, find someone worth it.
@ehBeth,
So what you are saying is that you do not see ANYTHING WRONG AT ALL WITH WHAT SHE DID BEHIND MY BACK??? You must be stupid, a cheater, or a feminist.......SMH
@Mississippisfinest98,
Did I say anything about her behaviour?
You need to sort out what you are going to do.
@tony5732,
tony5732 wrote:
Wow. Well let me start off by saying eBeth is a feminist.
too funny
I was told that I wasn't a feminist on another thread.
Lots of opinions out there eh.
@ehBeth,
I don't know who told you that... but the idea of talking to his girlfriend and taking her seriously after THAT, or "sorting it out and asking her feelings" after she was screwing this poor guy's brother and friend, says your a feminist.
@tony5732,
tony5732 wrote:
I don't know who told you that... but the idea of talking to his girlfriend and taking her seriously after THAT, or "sorting it out and asking her feelings" after she was screwing this poor guy's brother and friend, says your a feminist.
Either that, or an intelligent person....or (gasp) both.
She might even be a vegan, or an atheist or something.
@Mississippisfinest98,
What are you going to do? Have your social circle shun her?
Break up if you want to. But don't you think it's more of an issue what happened with your brother and your friend?
You have the fewest ties with her, yes? So instead of railing to the heavens about how unfair or horrible a person she is, start getting some answers from your friend and your sibling.
@tony5732,
tony5732 wrote:"asking her feelings"
who are you quoting there?
@jespah,
Ugh, why? The brother and the friend didn't do anything wrong. Sketchy, sort of. The reality is that the brother and the friend didn't make that kind of commitment to him at all.
If it wasn't them it would have been two other strange dudes the girl wanted to experiment with. . The girlfriend is the one who was in the relationship, the expectation of a relationship is that you don't cheat. I was in this sort of situation before, and realistically the slutty girlfriend is much easier to replace than a best friend or brother.
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